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2013/03/18 2 Comments
For many years I gave away my energy, spreading around my joy and goodwill till I finally found myself completely drained. Obviously, I was trapped in the false belief that I could make other people happy.
I wanted to make unhappy people happy, but guess what, they were not
interested to be “happy”…
MOST PEOPLE ARE ACTUALLY HAPPY TO BE UNHAPPY…- weird paradox.
They kind of secretly like being in constant contention, “to be happy” means struggle, disharmony and punishment…– it´s utterly twisted and strange, that´s why it has taken me years to finally sort this out.
So, to make it short, give your happiness and joy to yourself first, and then the ones who desire to embrace happiness, will just be attracted to you….and you to them.
2013/01/15 2 Comments
It’s more comfortable to be in familiar misery, than change our/your/their ways and risk happiness.
Why? Over and over again – why do we fear change, change that can lead to new horizons and new emotions?
That´s exactly what I wanted to say, but you managed to put right words to:
“It’s more comfortable to be in familiar misery than change our ways and risk happiness”
I meet fairly decent and reasonable people, gifted and hardworking and yet very unhappy in their personal relations.
It´s pointless to try to help or awaken them – they invoke change, but only as a verbal escape.
They complain about being miserable, but at the same time, wouldn´t go away from that dead relation, in spite of making each other´s life a hell. You observe with greatest awe that they like being unhappy – they kind of secretly enjoy to suffer.
I admit I have a hard time sometimes to understand or respect people who want to remain miserable.
It is a terrible saying in Romanian, which seems to be the valid truth for many:
“It is bad with the bad, but it´s worse without the bad.”
This is the tacit message:
“The Good, poses to many questions. Too damn difficult…
Remaining a loser at least, gives me the guarantee of being like everybody else.
I know what I have. It is too lonely to risk happiness, new emotions and undergo a real change.”
As to Why it is like this, I have no real answer – other than seemingly, man appears to be
insane. And diseased.
His disease being his cowardice and unwillingness to grow.
2012/12/10 4 Comments
In order to let happiness shine, we have to have the guts to look unhappiness in the eyes
and see it for what it is – ego…Ego meaning linearity, memory, time, chains of false relations, with other words, false identity…In timelessness all false relation stop. The difficult task is to observe this insidious inertia of this emotional-mental process and cease creating time.
For this we need accurate and active but un-forced total attention.
Alertness – exactly the thing we are never taught.
If you wanna know what I mean, watch a chasing cat before making
the leap to catch the bird, that´s the kind of absolute alertness I speak about.
Anyway, if we look lucidly, in this very second there are no problems. Easier said than done,
as we are conditioned by experience, thought and habit. I repeat:
ONLY THE SHARPEST ATTENTION CAN BREAK ITSELF FREE FROM MENTAL PATTERN.
Only Attention can see that Second in itself is never memory. But the mind has to be
fresh – NOT MADE FRESH DELIBERATELY – and “becoming” fully aware of its intricate mechanisms, in order to fully understand this freedom.
Freedom is always illogical, it escapes all models, all “good” or “bad” intentions,
it is neither this or that.
It is Being between two thoughts…
See if you can hear these words of mine with your heart not with your mind.
2012/12/10 3 Comments