An insight
2013/05/09 Leave a comment
A great quote about happiness
2013/03/23 2 Comments
I am the happiest man alive. I have that in me that can convert poverty to riches
adversity to prosperity, and I am more invulnerable than Achilles:
Fortune hath not one place to hit me.
Sir Thomas Browne
It is bad with the bad but the good is too big of a trouble
2013/01/15 2 Comments
reikiheidi says;
It’s more comfortable to be in familiar misery, than change our/your/their ways and risk happiness.
Why? Over and over again – why do we fear change, change that can lead to new horizons and new emotions?
I wonder….
Me:
That´s exactly what I wanted to say, but you managed to put right words to:
“It’s more comfortable to be in familiar misery than change our ways and risk happiness”
I meet fairly decent and reasonable people, gifted and hardworking and yet very unhappy in their personal relations.
It´s pointless to try to help or awaken them – they invoke change, but only as a verbal escape.
They complain about being miserable, but at the same time, wouldn´t go away from that dead relation, in spite of making each other´s life a hell. You observe with greatest awe that they like being unhappy – they kind of secretly enjoy to suffer.
Unbelievable….
I admit I have a hard time sometimes to understand or respect people who want to remain miserable.
It is a terrible saying in Romanian, which seems to be the valid truth for many:
“It is bad with the bad, but it´s worse without the bad.”
Absolutely horrendous…
This is the tacit message:
“The Good, poses to many questions. Too damn difficult…
Remaining a loser at least, gives me the guarantee of being like everybody else.
I know what I have. It is too lonely to risk happiness, new emotions and undergo a real change.”
As to Why it is like this, I have no real answer – other than seemingly, man appears to be
insane. And diseased.
His disease being his cowardice and unwillingness to grow.
Alertness and attention are the prerogatives of happiness
2012/12/10 4 Comments
In order to let happiness shine, we have to have the guts to look unhappiness in the eyes
and see it for what it is – ego…Ego meaning linearity, memory, time, chains of false relations, with other words, false identity…In timelessness all false relation stop. The difficult task is to observe this insidious inertia of this emotional-mental process and cease creating time.
For this we need accurate and active but un-forced total attention.
Alertness – exactly the thing we are never taught.
If you wanna know what I mean, watch a chasing cat before making
the leap to catch the bird, that´s the kind of absolute alertness I speak about.
Anyway, if we look lucidly, in this very second there are no problems. Easier said than done,
as we are conditioned by experience, thought and habit. I repeat:
ONLY THE SHARPEST ATTENTION CAN BREAK ITSELF FREE FROM MENTAL PATTERN.
Only Attention can see that Second in itself is never memory. But the mind has to be
fresh – NOT MADE FRESH DELIBERATELY – and “becoming” fully aware of its intricate mechanisms, in order to fully understand this freedom.
Freedom is always illogical, it escapes all models, all “good” or “bad” intentions,
it is neither this or that.
It is Being between two thoughts…
See if you can hear these words of mine with your heart not with your mind.
About giving and receiving
2012/12/10 3 Comments
buddhasal:
I see your point although in order to raise one’s life condition doesn’t compassion play a huge role in doing so; therefore helping another become happy should be part of one’s plan in life. Misery needs company to help heal the wounds sometimes.
Helping another become happy should be part of one’s plan in life”
Me:
I tried that for years and not only that it totally drained me…but it didn´t either help “the other”…
Yes, unfortunately Misery needs company. Misery enjoys being miserable…Really, people many times don´t want to be “helped”. Many times I made the huge mistake to belive they want, but more often than not,
I was severely punished for trying to uplift them.
I am not playing with words here.
If you really want to empathise with the unhappy, make sure YOU ARE HAPPY FIRST.
Otherwise, it´s only the sightless leading the blind.
buddhasal:
Totally agree. For that reason, I work on my happiness constantly but have found it rewarding to help others elevate themselves. It’s unfortunate that you were “severely punished”. Maybe it was the timing or the conditions weren’t right yet. It can also be your delivery. Sometimes we try to help but we choose to want for them what we want and not what they want to get out of it. We need to probe and listen even to silence to help the miserable. Their cries for help might at times be so faint yet so loud.
I am in no way the happiest person; but working at it everyday I get a step closer and I welcome
anyone for the ride.
Me:
There can be truth in your words as to my “delivery”.
On the other hand, I AM NEVER TRYING TO HAVE THINGS “MY” WAY.
With other words, without any false modesty, I know the art of skillful listening,
always “tuning” with the other.
Again, it´s very tricky, as giving without being reciprocated is very draining. Change entails responsibility,
and although many claim they want to change, in fact do want to remain the same.
They would rather have circumstances and others to change, still retaining the same viewpoint.
A short dialogue
2012/11/20 Leave a comment
Give happiness to the ones really wanting to be happy
2013/03/18 2 Comments
For many years I gave away my energy, spreading around my joy and goodwill till I finally found myself completely drained. Obviously, I was trapped in the false belief that I could make other people happy.
Pure illusion!
I wanted to make unhappy people happy, but guess what, they were not
interested to be “happy”…
MOST PEOPLE ARE ACTUALLY HAPPY TO BE UNHAPPY…- weird paradox.
They kind of secretly like being in constant contention, “to be happy” means struggle, disharmony and punishment…– it´s utterly twisted and strange, that´s why it has taken me years to finally sort this out.
So, to make it short, give your happiness and joy to yourself first, and then the ones who desire to embrace happiness, will just be attracted to you….and you to them.
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