Says Stephen Nachmanovitch
2013/03/12 Leave a comment
Stop fleeing your emotions
2013/01/30 1 Comment
This is an excerpt from an earlier post of mine:
“WHY ARE WE AFRAID TO FEEL? WHY DOES REAL PASSION SCARE US ? WHY ARE WE AFRAID AND ASHAMED TO LIVE AND SHOW OUR REAL EMOTIONS?
Why are we systematically avoiding these questions?”
Even if it feels awkward, could we discuss this together?
Oftentimes I feel awkwardly confused as to the significance of certain
VITAL AND IMPENDING QUESTIONS – like the ones above – that no one seems to see or care about.
As no one is interested to seriously approach these matters, I feel often awfully bewildered,
doubting if I am onto something, or if I am another peer of those indulging in senseless illusion.
It is hellishly lonely to see A Truth, that apparently is deliberately well-hidden and everybody refuses to admit.
Even more “spiritually educated people” claiming to be “truth seekers”,
fall victims of their grandiloquent philosophical crap, failing to ascribe importance to certain burning realities, so I seem to be the only one seeing and raising obvious inconvenient questions that, I repeat, nobody cares to consider or admit.
It is so: people refuse to see reality in the eye, and the one who dares say the plain truth,
is considered a fool or an loony excentric.
But as it happens, Fate has its ways, and out of the blue, sometimes I bump into something which
CONFIRMS THAT I WAS “RIGHT” VERSUS THE WHOLE PRESENT MENDACIOUS AGE, INDULGING IN CONVENIENT LIES.
Although I am not a fan of Jim Morrison´s music, his following quote gives me comfort,
justly illustrating that I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE TO HAVE SEEN THINGS AS THEY ARE:
“People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all.
PEOPLE TALK ABOUT HOW GREAT LOVE IS, BUT THAT´S BULLSHIT.
Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they’re afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It’s all in how you carry it. That’s what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.”
So, wherever you are, THANK YOU Jim Morrison for having said these words,
making my loneliness less unbearable!
Value cannot always be remembered or explained
2013/01/22 Leave a comment
Richard says:
I don’t like Kant since I often don’t understand what he tries to say. Sure, it may be due to me,
but if you can’t explain it to a 6-year-old it’s not really worth to be written down.
This is where real life takes place. Not in Kant’s own theoretic world.
Me:
Value is not always a matter of subjective comprehension…meaning that something intrinsically valuable is tacitly conveyed and perceived and not always to be explained – not even to a 6-year-old child.
Real life is not always “real”…Real life has, – as we know -, many palpable and subtle layers…Thus, even abstract wording has certain bearing, as it is a facet of Reality…Despite his abstruse use of language, Kant aims clearly on something unapproachable for the common apprehension, yet existing.
On the other hand, language is precarious – some of his students were once bewildered failing to properly interpret one of his texts written in his earlier years. So they asked Kant as to what he meant.
Kant methodically read that specific excerpt and simply admitted: “I DON´T REMEMBER”…:)
Delusion and self-denial will never know what Love is
2013/01/08 1 Comment
amiasleep says:
So if I know myself I’ll find love because I’ll love myself?
What if I just want someone else to love me even if I hate myself?
I remember reading another post of yours where you say something like loving others or being loved by others is not real? Because they only love what we represent to them?
If that is the reality, then perhaps it is better to be deluded and live in self-denial for I do not think that most (myself included) will have the courage to face such utter despair and loneliness.
Me:
This is a hard one.
I wish there was someone so perfectly capable as to love you even when you hate yourself.
That person should be really enlightened, almost a saint – and the thing is that we are short
of saints in our days.
The fact of the matter is that we attract others who are on the same frequency of emotion – with other words, behind appearance, you will manifest someone with the same issue:
self-hate.
It is quite logical, isn´t it?
For sure, this is hard to take, but most people today are stuck in projection, and as they are conditioned by their (mis)representation, they can neither see themselves or you…
You see, if these were only “words”…
Only confronting the utmost loneliness – which, for sure, is taken for “despair” as that entails the death of projection and representation – only, in that readiness of unconditionally facing yourself, the mind can renew itself, finding its innocence and then, and only then, can you know what Love is about…
Of course, you can hide yourself behind delusion and self-denial, but know that sooner or later, you won´t be able to escape yourself – the bubble will burst with an unpleasant bang.
I wish you lucidity to see this!
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The extraordinary versus the ordinary
2012/12/13 Leave a comment
Cornelius Agrippa
Reality: we must define our terms. Provisionally I would say reality is relative to our level of consciousness, that is, to our ability to perceive it. Reality for a snail is not the same as reality for a man or woman. There would be no point in a snail defining reality because a snail does not have the capacity to define anything higher than the snail world. In the same way, human beings in the ordinary state in which we find ourselves cannot define reality, otherwise we limit God.
Numbers: who knows? Physicists find that the world is mathematical, or at least, they are constantly surprised that they are able to describe it very accurately in mathematical terms. This astonishment has been going on since Pythagoras discovered that music is numbers.
Me:
A very good point! Just a question:
Of course it´s a matter of perception. How can one tell the “ordinary” about the “exatraordinary”…?
This pursuit may feel at times as meaningful as teaching a snail the Music of The Stars.
A liberating move
2012/11/11 Leave a comment
Says Aaron Asphar:
One of the most radical, liberating moves you can make right now is to fully grasp and recognize this truth: taking anything personally always binds you to an illusion. To overcome this illusion is self-overcoming – it is overcoming ego and unconsciousness, turning it back into free, untrammelled awareness. Nothing in the universe is just about you - how can it be? Which ‘you’? You are the total outcome of a universe of forces, perceived by mind as an entity. You are this universe. Your existence as a discrete entity is a figment of mind, an abstraction from all experience.
Conditioning equates destiny
2012/10/28 Leave a comment
Me:
It seems that people hold on to certain beliefs. The insidious reality is that oftentimes, certain entrenched beliefs hold you in their strong grip, without you being aware of it. That’s the case with the majority of people – their are totally caught in timeless conditioning. The fish doesn’t question water – this applies to certain immemorial ideas and complexes people identify as the only viable and unquestionable “Reality”.
Oftentimes you think you choose “something new”, whereas in reality you find just another truth or different system which intrinsically is nothing but another facet of the old conditioning.
Thus, it does require an incredible amount of courage and awareness to question current perception and completely dis-identify from it.
Cuoregiallo:
I agree. It really is a matter of shifting beliefs. It’s not our fault that our parents or the society itself grew up with different ideas and ideals. I truly respect that. It’s the truth for them. However, if one person wishes to make a huge difference (and change for that matter), it sure does take a lot of courage and awareness to bring about the desired result.
In totality, we have diverse perspectives about how to handle certain situations. But the only thing that binds people together is the values we all share and believe to be truthful. Values such as, like you said, courage, integrity, commitment, love, compassion, passion, etc. I guess that’s what the world lacks now, not just Sweden itself. People lack value in their lives.
Me:
So what is the specific meaning of Value for you?…
The compass to your life
2012/10/11 2 Comments
What brings us a real benefit really?
How do we recognize if something is “good”? Very simple: through the Joy we feel. Whatever good and real
brings instantly a feeling of ease and contentment.
Whatever true creates real consequence – it grows, it flourishes, it is distinctly dynamic.
Let´s say you have a thought, an idea. If this idea of yours is meaningful, you will see that it creates further ”positive” thoughts but also highly unlikely synchronistic incidents around you. Thoughts are “real”- real, meaning that sooner or later they became manifest.
It is so simple: Whatever is positive, will bloom, will grow, will create more waves of joy and inspiration. The “negative” in turn, creates nothing but conflict, sadness, doubt and despondency. You can recognize negativity
as being the manifestation of the static – a stagnant swamp. Negativity is non movement, non creation, in short, it is non life.
How do you recognize negativity? Again, through your feeling. Negativity sucks, it is persistently destructive, anti-life, anti-creation. It breeds only stagnation – where there is stagnation, nothing grows, nothing happens.
What proliferates out of stagnation is…disease.
So simple it is: if you don´t really live, – that is, failing to recognize the positive occurances
and grab them – you will be ill. Sickness is basically un-lived life. Sickness is the distorted compensation for un-living.
So what do you choose? To be joyful and alive or be sick and miserable? It sounds like a cynical question to pose… – if you earlier chose poorly, you are not to blame as nobody told you how things are connected…
If you are reasonably aware and pay attention to these words, you will start grasping the mechanics of life – your tool is Mindfulness. Constant and vivid Attention. Alertness.
MIND YOUR THOUGHTS ATTENTIVELY! MIND YOUR EMOTIONS!
I take it again: whatever is right and positive, creates instantly more circles of swirling energy and power, movement, inspiration, dialogue. Joyful immediate ideas are real, as these ideas create successful action. Understand that Joy is Health. Wellness is dynamic, creative, “in love”.
The negative is distinctively unproductive, frustrating, boring, apathetic…The negative always is in a state of doubt. Negativity always procrastinates, it fails to recognize the swiftness of the Vivid Moment.
Life watches over you, but you need to learn to watch over yourself first.
Your powerful tool is your Attention. To listen. To see. Life talks to you but if you are not mindful every second you won´t distinguish it.
Heed your thoughts, heed your emotions, because they are your precious legacy,
the compass of your life!
Who do we become in true relation to one another?
2012/10/01 2 Comments
You maybe are interested to take over Mirrors of Encounters too. It would be quite fun I think ;;)
