“There are people who bring up your more embarrassing moments when they feel like you’re getting “too confident” because, God forbid, you threaten their dominance.“
(thoughtcatalog.com)
This quote is so good and I recognize it from personal experience:
I once had a “friend” like that, such a pompous bastard.
Secretly he wanted to be a musician but realized he had no real talent for that…He eventually became a therapist in psychosynthesis. So being jealous of my musical and other artistic skills, this frustrated man would do everything to keep me down, playing superior, manipulating me through guilt and bad conscience.
I WAS SO ASHAMED OF HIS SHAMELESS INTRUSIONS IN MY LIFE…Yet, throughout many years, due to the fact of being rather lost and lonely in Sweden, never really having had the chance before to know what true friendship is about, I was putting up with this guy´s subtle or gross abuse, hoping that sooner or later, he would become a better man.
Such a delusion. Alas…- I was so gullible.
It´s a bitter fact but, with few exceptions, people never “improve”- they never change,
remaining the same throughout their whole life.
Thanks God, I understood this truth eventually, and stopped any contact with this man…
The question is:
HOW CAN YOU EVER BE FRIEND WITH SOMEONE WHO ENVIES YOU DUE
TO INFERIORITY COMPLEX…?
That´s the problem with people with low self-esteem – and they are not few in this
world - they feel urged to dominate you in order to compensate their lack of talent and self-worth.
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Richard:
When virtuality becomes your reality, you are in big trouble.
Me:
When it comes to social life in Stockholm, this “practice” has become more or less nonexistent.
Everyone here suffers about this phenomenon, and yet I seem to be the only one raising
these questions.
People have neither interest nor need for natural “rubbing shoulders”, nor do they any longer know what sound and sane interaction entails…
I am pondering 1000 times a day as to WHAT is the reason for shunning each other, why people have become utterly unapproachable, self-sufficient and disinterested to meet others, because this is exactly the worst disease of our time – this blatant lack of contact. This is the reason to all shortcomings, poverty and wretchedness in all areas of public life.
Alienation, reciprocal fear of each other, denial of true and spontaneous expression, procrastination and dishonesty is modern man´s curse. We live pornographically, as passion and feeling are banned from our social vocabulary.
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She is delightfully funny.
She spreads joy and lightness around her.
Unobtrusively witty, she has the right word
for everyone.
She saw that I saw her. She was thriving
in my appreciation.
“It feels so great to be given the right feedback”
she said with a grateful smile.
“You see, I always take a step back considering
and questioning whatever I think to be right.”
Highly uncommon. She is 19 only.
Gifted, genuinely interested in ethics
and in true, human endeavour.
“What a great pleasure talking to you!
We could go on for hours” she uttered
happily.
Yes…!
What a blessing to meet such a
charmingly intelligent girl.
So generous and outspoken.
A striking contrast to the curse of being
obliged to put up with many an educated
but stupid and pretentious goose
who imagine to be smart.
- Let us play! (julienmatei.com)
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Me:
It seems that people hold on to certain beliefs. The insidious reality is that oftentimes, certain entrenched beliefs hold you in their strong grip, without you being aware of it. That’s the case with the majority of people – their are totally caught in timeless conditioning. The fish doesn’t question water – this applies to certain immemorial ideas and complexes people identify as the only viable and unquestionable “Reality”.
Oftentimes you think you choose “something new”, whereas in reality you find just another truth or different system which intrinsically is nothing but another facet of the old conditioning.
Thus, it does require an incredible amount of courage and awareness to question current perception and completely dis-identify from it.
Cuoregiallo:
I agree. It really is a matter of shifting beliefs. It’s not our fault that our parents or the society itself grew up with different ideas and ideals. I truly respect that. It’s the truth for them. However, if one person wishes to make a huge difference (and change for that matter), it sure does take a lot of courage and awareness to bring about the desired result.
In totality, we have diverse perspectives about how to handle certain situations. But the only thing that binds people together is the values we all share and believe to be truthful. Values such as, like you said, courage, integrity, commitment, love, compassion, passion, etc. I guess that’s what the world lacks now, not just Sweden itself. People lack value in their lives.
Me:
So what is the specific meaning of Value for you?…
This is a dialogue between me and Bex:
She: It strikes me as weird and highly abusive to be honest; how and why would any parent subject their growing child to such evasive medications that crush the soul, steal dreams and life away??? Conditioning it is, as the parents don’t know how to react to, interact with and raise their own children (oh, and accept them for what and who they are). No doubt they will have a medication which will enable a child to raise itself in a few years, with zero parental input! It is almost as though being a child is under attack; from this medicated childhood (where life passes them by in a drug haze), to childhood Anorexia, bullying, depression and suicide. Are we determined to kill off, curtail and lobotomise our next generation?
How and why would any parent subject their growing child to such evasive medications that crush the soul, steal dreams and life away?”
Me: How can we know…? We can only gather…
Subjecting their offspring to such evasive treatment we may wonder: Do people really love their kids?… For if they did, would they allow something so infamous to happen?… Or maybe many parents are so thoroughly brainwashed and consequently so extremely frightened of life, so that they have totally lost their common sense, humanity and ability to discern?…
Really…It´s outrageous: How could many parents allowed their kids some two years ago? to be vaccinated against this scandalously disgraceful hoax – swine flu – the consequence of which being that thousands!! of kids in Sweden fell ill with narcolepsy. And these morons of parents, just accepted with no further comment that their kids are marked for life…
How can a zombie be expected to love and act or even re-act…? Many parents not only they no longer know how to react to, interact with and raise their own children, the problem is – as I already said – they have become totally estranged for Life…They have become emotionally and morally illiterate.
You say:
“No doubt they will have a medication which will enable a child to raise itself in a few years, with zero parental input”
To illustrate your point, I saw a documentary where an incredibly aloof Japanese madcap scientist had invented a robot which LOOKED EXACTLY LIKE HIM, so the robot would be with his kids when he was not in a mood…is this the height of folly or what?…
You could see that man didn´t really want to live anymore, projecting himself into a robot.
People are deeply disturbed, so not unlike the Japanese inventor, – more or less deliberately -, many have become lifeless robots. So the kids are under the attack of their parents madness, huge blindness and irresponsibility. All these symptoms – Anorexia, depression and suicide are basically the outcome of modern man´s seemingly incurable inability to live and love…
Man depriving himself of his humanity.
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The worst thing here in Sweden is that people are “encouraged” – that is, tacitly constrained – to NOT think.
Be a disposable vegetable, that’s about how the motto goes, we take care to dehumanize you, to brainwash you and make you happy. Responsibility to yourself or others, empathy or interest, these are – mind you – outmoded stuff.
Intellectual and emotional non-involvement has created some perfect zombies. The founders of this insidious system seem to have succeeded. I speak mainly of the present generation. Elderly Swedes were very decent people.
The biggest problem in Sweden is that there is never a truthful, factual debate.
Here we do not speak, here we shut up. Unfeigned, spontaneous and honest expression is anarchic.
Never ever express anything for real, you´re breaking the established order.
Systematically, people refuse to think, to display a personal profile, to participate,
to build honest and decent relationships, as this would entail responsibility. Everything is kind of fake.
Spontaneous is just a word in the dictionary. Everything is a perfect bluster. An ode to stupidity and incoherent superficiality of the worst kind.
Intelligent man here is an outlaw. Removed. Not through drastic coercive measures, no, but through total and perfect indifference. No matter what pertinent things, nobody listens. You are perfectly ignored.
You give everything you have, you try hardly to reach out, and when it comes to receiving, you receive … – a long pause… – to express myself euphemistically.
Intelligence is eliminated, it´s considered a menace.
If you have the nerve to have a real life, to talk, to get involved in some kind of bigger picture, you automatically become persona non grata. So strange:
You can not say books are not written, or people do not read. The problem is that nobody – as I said – is ever interested to discuss anything at all.
And what´s the worst is that NOTHING HAPPENS REALLY, at least not something worth taking into account. How do these people live their lives? What do they do in order to keep so dead?
Indeed, the real virtue here is death.
The more dead, the more respectable.
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