We are our stories

We are a sum of all these stories…

If we run out of stories, we run out of life. Stories are not seditious facts that we are bombarded with daily, but deep meaningful aspects of our ageless humanity. If we lose our real stories, we lose our humanity.

As never before we need real storytellers. We need food for our soul, we need to re-embark on the never-ending journeys to the magic land of our phantasy. What is going on the level of our phantasy and dreams, is not just nonsensical silly figments, but something very central
for the well-being of our Psyche, something which opens the door to an enhanced reality.

In fact, what we see and experience around us, is the outgrowth of the stories we keep telling to ourselves.

I remember a man of modest means once telling me that without stories he would die… I was so moved…

So, I am about to ask something very important:

What stories do you keep telling inside of you? Is our life a series of empty cynical facts as we are expected to believe, or a glorious tale worth telling…?

I, for one, have never encountered any person of success who hasn´t somehow raised beyond pure empiricism into the noble essence of phantasy. And that´s exactly the right use of their phantasy, which is the outcome of their success.

Late one night after a concert in Malmö, I once met a wealthy man. He confided to me that he once met an interesting man and believe or not – what they did, was spending time together, telling  fairy-tales to each other. To their great amazement, out of a certain story they got the inspiration to an incredible business project. To cut it short, this project made them both millionaires.

No, you won´t hear about these things in newspapers or TV. What universities and other impostors tell you is that success is only the outcome of hard work. Such a revolting lie. The truth is that all rich people I ever met, were original thinkers, and made their fortunes out of contact with something magic and initially unaccountable.

The equation is simple. Try to conquer a beautiful woman through reason and see what you get…Try to achieve something great through mere reason…Reason only means loss and failure, whereas contact with the deeper realities of life can open unexpected perspectives…

I choose the wealth of stories and their timeless wisdom…What about you?…

About julienmatei
I feel an inner urge to express what I see, to communicate and share with others all these impressions. Often the things I see are there, not yet manifest, but waiting... to be observed, talked about, and embraced. These new insights need another approach, a more vivid curiosity... Due to fear and prejudice we prefer to see only "the official" truth - but THE OFFICIAL TRUTH IS DEAD - being dead, it has nothing to give... We can continue pretending Death is fascinating or... we can take the trouble to LIVE... THE NEW has no definition yet... Again, IT requires another "perception", the courage to apprehend everything differently, from a totally new angle, with new confidence and inquisitive touch. This blog is not about interesting concepts, it is about participation... finding new solutions, inspiration, togetherness.

15 Responses to We are our stories

  1. Religion4All says:

    Beautiful post! You are right, I was very interested to read this … and I relate to it completely!

  2. Thomas Ross says:


    There’s so much here to think about.

    First, some interesting affinities. In my other writing, I focused to some extent on the role of stories in the construction of the state’s law- wrote a book titled, “Just Stories.” Now out of print. Second, among the book projects that I had worked on before was an attack on the very idea of “reason.” “Reason’s Terror” was one of the tentative titles.

    But more important to me is what I’m reading here about phantasy, imagination, the uselessness of education that takes the form of simple fact acquisition, and the great, great contributions of “original thinkers.” I would take that last point a step further and say that the greatest of our thinkers are often labeled “insane” but if their talent can be accepted and they can thus be permitted to offer their contribution, they are the ones who might change the world, the so called crazy ones.

    I hear your message. We must free ourselves from all we have been taught about staying on the conventional path, working hard, thinking analytically- all that separates us from our potential. Only when we find the courage to break free might we, as you say, find those “glorious stories to tell.”

    I can feel in your writing in this blog a sense of this freedom, although I hear in this post a hint of anger. I understand that anger- spent many years banging my head against the wall in frustration. But am now trying to stay focused on what’s really in my control- me. But then maybe a little anger in these matters isn’t a bad thing.

    Fascinating post.


    • julienmatei says:

      Another thing:

      Your book “Just Stories”. Can I purchase it somewhere?

      • Thomas Ross says:


        I’m sure that there are copies out there. I often buy used books through abebooks.com or allibris.com- probably some copies there. The book is “Just Stories- How the Law Embodies Racism and Bias” published by Beacon Press (1996). Much of it is rhetorical analysis of our Supreme Court’s opinions on race and poverty issues.

        Very different from the blog writing but good work, I think.

        Thanks for asking.


  3. julienmatei says:

    So grateful for your comment!

    You say:

    .”..the greatest of our thinkers are often labeled “insane” but if their talent can be accepted and they can thus be permitted to offer their contribution, they are the ones who might change the world, the so called crazy ones.”

    This makes me think of Spiritual Emergency – a book released in the 90´s where the writer well pointed out that the reason why we no longer have real prophets, great poets and seers is because most of them are to be found locked in asylums.

    I´ve given this serious thought throughout the years, and I agree with that writer:

    The present Zeitgeist doesn´t allow people with extraordinary gifts to survive. What they say can be so mind blowing and different, so there is most often nobody to hear, heed, and take them seriously. And so these people instead of being encouraged to be themselves and unleash their gifts, are ridiculed, forced to be “normal” and eventually declared pathologically ill…

    Is there a more horrendous crime than that?…Can we ever heal as species, when we don´t allow ourselves to be healed, due to the worst disease, namely Pure Reason…?

    Some years ago, I was supposed to give a piano lesson to a 11-years-old girl. To make it short, we began to improvise something – she had never played piano before – and as she felt safe with me, belive it or not, she began playing!!! the most incredible peculiar song. Her improvisation sounded similar to Carmina Burana of Carl Orff – it was incredibly coherent piano playing, and, what was mind blowing is that she sang along in a langauge I HAD NEVER HEARD BEFORE! It was an eery combination of Latin and Italian, It was unbelievable, it was like she was in trance…I could almost discern the words she sang…A sad story about a curse, a monster and a girl kidnaped…oh, if I had words to depict the curious and odd melody she was murmuring…It was some kind of conjuration…I was enthralled…I told her narcissistic and fatuous mother about her daughter`s incredible talent and she never heard my words…I don´t know what happened to that girl ever since…Never saw her again…

    I have seen all too many cases of utterly talented people who ended up ill, or even died due to total lack of understanding. You say you detect hear a hint of anger. I don´t know whether it ´s the case with this particular post, but yes, seeing all this prejudice and ignorance within the so-called educated circles, sometimes I am angry. This anger helps me survive, it helps me continuing writing on this blog.

    As you say, conventions and analytical thinking kills life, kills our dreams and dignity – this way of “living”, deprives us of our great potential.
    Instead of fulfilling a great and meaningful destiny, many special people are consigned to inane misunderstanding and misery.

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  5. Excellent piece of writing, Julien! So much to say….

    You certainly touch on a key point about the glorification of “hard work.” Such a prevalent disease. Crazy how most people dislike their jobs, and worse, they identify with their job title/position/career. When asked “what do you do,” and the response is I work at X company, that right there is the problem.

    Touching words by the man you mentioned.



    • julienmatei says:

      Yes Paul,

      Although brief, there are some encounters which are simply indelible – like the one with the man of poor means: I can´t forget his voice when sayng that without stories he couldn´t stay alive…

      And then of course the other encounter with the wealthy man, with such original frame of mind.

      I round off with this edifying quote:

      We live in a culture that is primarily concerned with busy-ness, but this constant activity is mostly used defensively as a means of preventing ourselves from feeling the uncomfortable disconnect from our deepest being.
      – David Whyte

  6. We were just sitting over here talking about evolution and I mentioned that I believe there is only one way we can evolve, and that is through the art of story telling. Since we all die and are born fresh and innocent, we pass on our sense to the next generations. If we don’t pass it on, there will be no growth. This would explain why we are always very focused on plays, movies, video games, and eventually getting to a point where we can convey our senses very quickly and accurately. Story telling, though it uses words, gets us away from the words and into the sense that the words are trying to convey. I suppose it is like the species is trying to be able to share all of the experiences it has individually with itself collectively in order to expand at a faster rate. I don’t know what would be true, but it is always fun thinking and I always enjoy the realms where your thoughts journey!!

    • julienmatei says:


      You may consider this paradoxical, but I simply don´t believe in “evolution”. We are already what we try to be. There is no expansion, as we are already “expanded”…We have just forgotten that. Hence time and so-called “progress” has nothing to do with who we really are.

      You see, when I was 4 or 5, I was way more “evolved” than I am today. So my most vital endeavour lately has been to get to know this boy within me, create a new space for him, allowing this 5-year-old boy to emerge from the hiding-place in which he for so long has been confined…

      Imagine that…Tough task learning to parent this wondrous creature who is not touched by words and logic, but only understands stories, playfulness and magic…So if I want a new healthy chapter in my life, I need to give this boy all my loving attention. All my vivid interest.

      He simply doesn´t take ready-made answers, verbal inflexibility, stiffness of soul…if I want his winsome trust, I have to befriend and approach him from a place of non-mind. With openness and sweet innocence. I have to understand his pain and fear in a non-logical way…

      He abides in the realms of resonance…In the worlds of echo. Only stories – that is, non-thinking! – can reach him.

      So truth is that if I win his love, it´s not me, but he… conveying the gift of Rich Life back to me…


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