Talking to oneself never hearing the other is called dialogue today

If you listen to something or someone, and at the same time you are being absorbed by your thoughts and inner chatting, it means that YOU DON´T ACTUALLY LISTEN. You can´t take in anything other than the noise of your mind.

You can´t possibly be watchful, be fully attentive and in the same time think. People learn almost nothing new, cause they always think, always measure, always look to gain, frantically thirsting for some kind of abstract “more”. Nothing seems to still their fierce lust.The more they look, the less they get, the emptier, more stupid and greedy they all become.

Searching without ever finding, seems to be the thing. All this frenzied looking for something, but never knowing what they search. How could they ever know, or find something, if they are irretrievably unmindful, never attentive to what is going on around them…

You watch them talk and you realize with amazement that they don´t speak to each other, but to themselves, using the other as a part of their inner dialogue. Ignoring the other, talking to oneself, is called dialogue today.

Love – like communication – entails real contact, real interest to reach out…
Sharing something today though is more like “we are together but masturbate separately.”

Alas, it takes two to be no one.

About julienmatei
I feel an inner urge to express what I see, to communicate and share with others all these impressions. Often the things I see are there, not yet manifest, but waiting... to be observed, talked about, and embraced. These new insights need another approach, a more vivid curiosity... Due to fear and prejudice we prefer to see only "the official" truth - but THE OFFICIAL TRUTH IS DEAD - being dead, it has nothing to give... We can continue pretending Death is fascinating or... we can take the trouble to LIVE... THE NEW has no definition yet... Again, IT requires another "perception", the courage to apprehend everything differently, from a totally new angle, with new confidence and inquisitive touch. This blog is not about interesting concepts, it is about participation... finding new solutions, inspiration, togetherness.

17 Responses to Talking to oneself never hearing the other is called dialogue today

  1. I do follow your thoughts.
    We are good ranters and poor hearers.
    We learn poorly.
    We get emptier this way.
    Love re-named a monologue.
    Men! I’m stuffed.
    I hear you loud and clear.
    I think I hear you.

    I hope I hear you.

    • julienmatei says:

      There is no doubt about that:
      I hear that you hear. And your hearing reaffirms my thoughts. These thoughts seem to be
      your thoughts as well, and that makes me hopeful and grateful.

      Albeit our present rather scary general predicament, we are a few who start to hear each other – and that is the beginning of true change.

    • julienmatei says:

      Thanks for reading Few words to Bex.

      There are already four!! of us who hear. As I said there:
      When a handful of dedicated souls start hearing, this world has a fair chance to undergo a real transformation…

      Isn´t it so…?

      • Pray we be hearing right. Else we be just another group of deluded fellows who think they see.

        Perhaps the whole world will change.
        Or perhaps many will still resist the wake-up cry, numb to the reality of it all.

      • julienmatei says:

        Reality as it presents itself now, is very disheartening. Unquestionably, it has never been so critically desperate and depressing – it takes guts to admit this.

        Are we another group of deluded fellows?…How can we know…? What I know, is that there is an unshakable certainty within me, an inner reassuring voice which never fails me. When I hear, I know I hear. And I also hear when I am heard…

        For sure, many will keep resisting…playing numb and

        The question is – will we…? Will you…?

  2. goldennuggetde says:

    I will. I even try to, at least. Don’t we become desperate! Let’s continue this way.


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  4. I hear, I know, I just don’t know what next step, just now, Only now

    • julienmatei says:

      It is great to hear that YOU HEAR. Mindful listening is real knowledge.

      I don´t know either what the next step is. Let us just keep the flame of communication alive.
      Let´s listen attentively to each other, heeding each other. Change will happen due to this our readiness to acknowledge and back one another. In mutual interest and trust Inspiration and New Implementable Ideas can blossom.



  5. ptero9 says:

    What? …Just kidding you Julien. Listening is an art these days. I am aware of times that I just want to say the next thing I am thinking.

    Practice, practice, practice. It does make a difference.

  6. Nataly says:

    Sometimes, Julien, you articulate my thoughts and feelings so adequately I have nothing more to add!

    I have been seeing a man who expects me to hang off his every word as though it’s never yet been thought, and yet, when I try to contribute to the conversation, he reads a newspaper, or looks around, and once I’ve said something, he proceeds to say “Sorry, what did you say?” Sometimes, he is so obviously engrossed in something else that even when I’m silent, he says “Sorry, what was that?” almost as an afterthought, or a pretense that he was trying to listen when he’s really just waiting for me to be quiet so he can speak again.

    I don’t expect all my thoughts and comments to be mind-blowing, though they are certainly often outside of the realm of “normal”…but I do expect to be shown the respect of being heard, especially since he so desires that from me. Or. Perhaps I just need a new man-friend.

    Because love – can never be real love – without genuine connection, and genuine connection cannot occur in a communication vacuum.

    • julienmatei says:


      Is he rich at least?…:P

      No, but really… relations are a conundrum.

      Sorry for being so overly frank, but how on earth can you put up with such a self-infatuated and conceited fellow?

      The human psyche is a total paradox so I wonder:

      Does his disrespectful atittude somehow secretely make you look up to him?

      Is it something in this type of behaviour which somehow triggers you?

      What made you fall for him after all?…

      There are women who are turned off if shown too much interest and affectionate attention.
      They tacitly ask to be dominated and demeaned and thus are unconsciously drawn to this type of male who keeps them in constant turmoil.

      There are very few genuine and intimate relations in this world. Most of them are built on distance. Mutual exploitation. Whims. What draws people together is usually the false self.

      It´s about time maybe you revise the motive behind your attraction to this guy, assuming your own words:

      “Love can never be real without genuine connection, and genuine connection cannot occur in a communication vacuum.”

      Ineed, it is ripe time we become aware and face our inner vacuum, and start the real communication with the True Self. Only then we may know what Love is about.

      I am grateful to know, so thank you for letting me know that my words resonate with you!

      Let´s keep the dialogue alive!

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