Stop trying to be someone – just be yourself for a change
2012/11/13 15 Comments
Everyone tries hard to be someone. If I am so self-important, someone else wants also to be important, so obviously everything becomes a constant conflict. Yes, the same goes for conflict between families, casts, groups of interest, nations – in short, everything in this life is a constant series of struggles and conflicts between different people who want to be someone empowered by a certain belief.
If I have a certain viewpoint, whenever I stubbornly hold to my ideology – be it Christianity, Buddhism, Marxism, Atheism, Freud, Jung or whatever -, this will enhance my ego and surely create conflict with another person holding another ideology.
In our present world, my belief is your threat. Your belief creates walls around you so I can´t reach you. Can you recognize and honestly question this?…Can you see that whatever “belief” is the very ground for arguments, fights and wars…?
Can you see that your avid attempt to find “your way” is often nothing more than vain conflictuality?
Whenever you work hardly to be “someone” you stress your belief, you create disharmony, imbalance, violence…Whenever you create something out of personal interest, “something else” will be the other´s answer to you.
You are always a threat for me, and me to you, as long as I hold to “mine” and you to “yours”.
Your specific way in life is given, but you cannot look for it, it´s nothing you can deliberately find. Searching creates isolation and violence. Only when you cease “trying to be” and instead, peacefully know yourself in harmony, in relation – that is, in swift tacit accord with the other -, then and only then, you will find “your real way”.
It is the natural non conflictual way, something that is both your and the other´s gain.
Do I believe in something?…I like Christ, Buddha, Homer, Scriabin, Rembrandt, Rilke, Kandinsky and many others, but I don´t believe in any of them.
I used to be a Julien-ist but I have given up that too 🙂
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What are you now Julien?
Bex 🙂
I am You 🙂
My name is Bex today…just today 😀
Wow, really!!! That would be cool! Does that mean I become you? 🙂
:)) How can I know…? If you let go of all defenses, you become the very air between these words.
It´s kind of pleasant, trust me 🙂
Being a breeze now and then…
Ethereal almost? Ummm, I can be that!
🙂
Ethereal…mmh…so soothing…I almost hear the wind…Aeolos murmuring…
🙂
I am having a tea for a change…did u have coffee today?
Of course!! Although I have consumed all my good coffee, so was left with a nasty substitute. One thing I always require is good coffee!!!!!!
a more elabaorate answer:
https://julienmatei.com/2012/11/13/every-encounter-is-either-fear-or-a-blessing-what-do-you-choose/
tell me please, does the word seriousity or seriosity exist in English?
I didn´t want to use “seriousness”
In the ‘urban’ dictionary yes, but in general no. It would be seriousness or earnestness, staidness, gravity, severity. All applicable!!
OK, I’ll have a look at your all inclusive answer!
Bex 🙂
exactly that´s what I thought. Seriousness sound too heavy in that particular phrase, it spoiled the rhythm…
The question is: can we be “urban” when we write?…
Depends on the writing and the mood behind it.
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