Failing is mostly taken for success

For most people failing is the greatest success.

So many are irreversibly caught in formidable self-deceit. They persistently
claim to be well and thrive, yet you can evidently witness how they headlong are rushing
downwards to perdition.

You try to warn them. One, two, ten times… – they wouldn´t hear.
Not only that they bluntly refuse, but often pompously play superior, poke fun at you,
turning your words into derision. So you give up, leaving them to their destiny.

It doesn´t take long before you hear that some of these people, either are involved in a terrible car accident, fall ill in a life-threatening disease, commit suicide or die in totally unforeseen circumstances.

I am aware that it is baffling, but the underlying reason behind these people´s misfortunes
It feels that many of them unconsciously wanted to die. I have many examples, but what it comes to my mind now is the death of a good friend of mine, incredibly skilled musician, who passed away some months ago, only 34 years old. I found it very difficult to write about him at that time, but I will do so with another occasion.

Anyhow, I have understood that despite claiming otherwise, surprisingly many people
don´t really want to live, finding reasons to eschew themselves, ultimately undermining their lives.

The thing is, however, that eventually you can help only those ones who expressly ask for help.
With the others you waste your time trying to back or help them. It is pointlessly draining you of your life-force too.

Their chosen destiny seems to be total failing and disaster, and you have no other choice than letting them tread this fateful way to utter downfall.

About julienmatei
I feel an inner urge to express what I see, to communicate and share with others all these impressions. Often the things I see are there, not yet manifest, but waiting... to be observed, talked about, and embraced. These new insights need another approach, a more vivid curiosity... Due to fear and prejudice we prefer to see only "the official" truth - but THE OFFICIAL TRUTH IS DEAD - being dead, it has nothing to give... We can continue pretending Death is fascinating or... we can take the trouble to LIVE... THE NEW has no definition yet... Again, IT requires another "perception", the courage to apprehend everything differently, from a totally new angle, with new confidence and inquisitive touch. This blog is not about interesting concepts, it is about participation... finding new solutions, inspiration, togetherness.

2 Responses to Failing is mostly taken for success

  1. seeingwhatis says:

    Very interesting and true. I agree to the limit of my understanding. Something comes to mind though. Isn’t the fear for death, the force that will give you that very experience, experience of dieing or seeing death, facing it. So isn’t the wanting to live a recentment of dieing. A non-wanting to die. Relating to death, isn’t that a way of giving power to the concept?
    Were we ever born? What was born? Maybe only the form of us.
    Total acceptance of death seems like acceptance of life. Of what is. So maybe the wanting to live Leeds to death?
    Willingness on the other hand, may be free of lessons to learn. Free of resistence. I don’t know. What do you say? I know belief is resistence to life, and that believers don’t accept what is. They identify the illusion which creates strong belief, but they can’t see through it because this very belief. Surrender is the next thing to happen. Surrender to not knowing. Then they will know/see. Death is impossible to accept for any “person” and therefore death is the lesson that needs to be learned.
    Die before you die and you will embrace it. Living is interesting, apart from thinking.

  2. Joy is now says:

    That’s just it. You have to ‘let them’, accept it and ‘let go’. Letting go is my lesson in all things.

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