What entails a real relation?

When you say “I miss a real man or real woman” you actually state the missing contact with your Self.

You’re not to blame – what You Are feels insufficient, you look for “the other “to complete you, to compensate your shortage of not being enough to yourself.

What you miss really is not “the other”, but Yourself – the right connection with the true you – can you see that? This is hard to digest, but your feeling of Separation can never be made “whole” by another man or woman, even if it seems so. Because “the one” you are looking for is actually YOU. The harmony you expect to find meeting the other, is the inner equilibrium you are supposed to find first in yourself. Not easy…

With the risk of demystifying love, the truth is that nobody and nothing can make
you happy in the long run – despite the greatest illusion emblazoned by society which always urges you to look outside yourself.

This realization may take a second or a lifetime, alas, most people need even more than that. The fact is that only when you realize that Separation is Illusion, that beyond the deceptive feeling of being separated you are in fact, whole and happy, then and only then, you may meet someone with whom you handsomely resonate.

About julienmatei
I feel an inner urge to express what I see, to communicate and share with others all these impressions. Often the things I see are there, not yet manifest, but waiting... to be observed, talked about, and embraced. These new insights need another approach, a more vivid curiosity... Due to fear and prejudice we prefer to see only "the official" truth - but THE OFFICIAL TRUTH IS DEAD - being dead, it has nothing to give... We can continue pretending Death is fascinating or... we can take the trouble to LIVE... THE NEW has no definition yet... Again, IT requires another "perception", the courage to apprehend everything differently, from a totally new angle, with new confidence and inquisitive touch. This blog is not about interesting concepts, it is about participation... finding new solutions, inspiration, togetherness.

5 Responses to What entails a real relation?

  1. seeingwhatis says:

    Glad I met you 🙂
    As all external stimulantia you need to increase the dose to maintain the effect, opposed to harmony within, where joy is hallways and full.

  2. you're just a dumbass says:

    Misconceptions about self create illusions that distort our perception of reality.

    • julienmatei says:

      So it is…usually we fall victims of these very misconceptions and projections, turning “the other” into the object of our distortion.

  3. Joy is now says:

    I learned to fully understand this concept in the last few months and even when my partner ‘dumped me’ 2 months ago I was still full of joy. I felt whole anyway and knew that we were still connected in a big way whether we were together or not. He knew it too and needed to make us official again only 2 weeks later and I learned that I am whole on my own finally with or without him. I enjoyed the whole experience. Can live with him, can live without him!

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