Fear of death is Fear of Life

The worst and most paradoxical thing about human nature
is not that man fears unhappiness and death,
but invariably dreads Happiness and Life.

About julienmatei
I feel an inner urge to express what I see, to communicate and share with others all these impressions. Often the things I see are there, not yet manifest, but waiting... to be observed, talked about, and embraced. These new insights need another approach, a more vivid curiosity... Due to fear and prejudice we prefer to see only "the official" truth - but THE OFFICIAL TRUTH IS DEAD - being dead, it has nothing to give... We can continue pretending Death is fascinating or... we can take the trouble to LIVE... THE NEW has no definition yet... Again, IT requires another "perception", the courage to apprehend everything differently, from a totally new angle, with new confidence and inquisitive touch. This blog is not about interesting concepts, it is about participation... finding new solutions, inspiration, togetherness.

6 Responses to Fear of death is Fear of Life

  1. reikiheidi says:

    It’s more comfortable to be in familiar misery than change our/your/their ways and risk happiness.
    Why? Over and over again – why do we fear change, change that can lead to new horizons and new emotions?
    I wonder….

    • julienmatei says:

      That´s exactly what I wanted to say, but you managed to put right words to:

      “It’s more comfortable to be in familiar misery than change our ways and risk happiness”

      I meet fairly decent and reasonable people, gifted and hardworking and yet very unhappy in their personal relations.
      It´s pointless to try to help or awaken most people. They complain about being miserable, but at the same time, wouldn´t go away from that dead relation, in spite of making each other´s life a hell. You observe with greatest awe that they like being unhappy – they kind of secretely enjoy to suffer.


      I admit I have a hard time sometimes to understand or respect people who want to remain miserable.

      It is a terrible saying in Romanian, which seems to be valid:

      It is bad with the bad, but it´s worse without the bad…

      As to ” Why”, I have no answer…other than seemingly man appears to be insane.

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  3. Thomas Ross says:


    Your words resonate with one of my most treasured Tao passages. “[The Master] holds nothing back from life; therefore he is ready for death, as a man is ready for sleep after a good day’s work.”

    And perhaps even more, you send me again to the Auden passage- “We would rather be ruined than changed. We would rather die in our dread than climb the cross of the moment and let our illusions die.”

    Glad to see you are still fighting the good fight.


    • julienmatei says:


      Isn´t it so…? When we really LIVE and hold nothing back from life, doing the best of our ability to fulfill our real call, we have enough time and are no longer afraid to die. When we fear life, we are always short of time, and being short of time, means not pursuing our real vocation.

      The Auden passage is breathtakingly true…”We would rather die in our dread than climb the cross of the moment and let our illusions die”…
      Change is more feared than death…

      Alas, give us today our daily distortions as Righteousness and Truth scares us…

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