Can we heal from depression?

She said:
“I am tired of feeling shit. I am tired of living in anxiety, fear, depression, sadness, a mess in my head.

I want to be happy. I want to live my life to the full! I only have one chance at this and I’m pushing 30 and I don’t want to be miserable on a daily basis.”

My answer:
I recognize your experience in mine.

I do not want in any way to indulge in vapid speculation.

Let´s just say that the very basis of depression is cleavage. A rupture in our soul.
An inner constant conflict which perpetuates itself through more conflict.

You are depressed, anxious, sad – it is a fact. On the other hand,
YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY. You want, of course, to live “your” life to the full.
You don´t want to be miserable on a daily basis.

And yet that´s what you are JUST NOW. Sad. Fearful.

Please, try to follow!

You see, if you try to be happy, that is, to be something that YOU ARE NOT JUST NOW, you do nothing but creating and enhancing even more your inward conflict.
Don´t you have enough conflict as it is…?

Can you see that by wanting “to become” something you for the time being are not,
you punish yourself…?
Again, how can we ever become something that we are not just now?
This is pure fiction, and yet, this is the societal fiction we have been conditioned by.

So stop punishing yourself, stop creating even more pain for yourself!
ACCEPT YOUR PRESENT PREDICAMENT. DON´T TRY TO CHANGE!
CHANGE COMES NATURALLY once you have learned to stay with What Is in
affectionate presence. You need to caress your wounds instead of flagellating yourself.

You need your own compassion and loving interest!

So be it!