What entails a true relation?

Life is relation – that´s why we ascribe Interaction incredible value. 

Relation is important inasmuch as we always search to be completed by
something…or someone outside us.

It is normal, that´s what we have been taught: To search for meaning
in relation with things and people outside us. To search for approval. 
To define ourselves and find fulfillment through others.

But what happens if the other fails to have a real and genuine relation to himself?
How can a person living in falsehood and illusion see and approve of you?
What can a person living in delusion do other than letting both himself
and you down?…

Not having a genuine relation to themselves, people indulge in hypocrisy and lying,
in order to hide their
 shame and guilt.

They live in constant distance to everything, using all resources in this hopeless specific undertaking to conceal their shame and guilt. No wonder they are so stressed.

Yes, most people are like shards. How can a shard be ment by another shard?
How do you expect to see the Real You whilst you look through a
broken window?…

Looking outside for meaningful relation is looking into the Mirror of Fear. 

That being said, what about if

What does this “right relation to yourself” entail?

It presupposes to have confronted  and “done away” with Fear within you, with false expectation. To have clearly understood that outward relation never compensates your insecurity, your sense of incompleteness, your apartness. In fact, the most difficult thing to get is that as long as there is fear of yourself, no real relation can be built up. Trying to escape fear enhances fear. Escaping fear breeds lying and hypocrisy.

To see beyond the illusion of fleeing yourself in outward relation
requires great courage. Great responsibility. 

To stop searching yourself in the other, is to do away with sorrow, regret and unfulfillment.

Then and only then True Relation and Meaningful Interaction is possible.

About julienmatei
I feel an inner urge to express what I see, to communicate and share with others all these impressions. Often the things I see are there, not yet manifest, but waiting... to be observed, talked about, and embraced. These new insights need another approach, a more vivid curiosity... Due to fear and prejudice we prefer to see only "the official" truth - but THE OFFICIAL TRUTH IS DEAD - being dead, it has nothing to give... We can continue pretending Death is fascinating or... we can take the trouble to LIVE... THE NEW has no definition yet... Again, IT requires another "perception", the courage to apprehend everything differently, from a totally new angle, with new confidence and inquisitive touch. This blog is not about interesting concepts, it is about participation... finding new solutions, inspiration, togetherness.

4 Responses to What entails a true relation?

  1. T. Buss says:

    Are you afraid for others ore for you self?
    I don’t think that a man have something to be afraid for as long that you sending out right signals. I believ that if you are honest to you self every moment, you meet people who are honest to you. You get what you have to deal whith. What’s go around com’s around. And sincerely Julien you are a good person.

    T. Buss

  2. Pingback: Snippets, glimpses and shards | Mirrors of Encounters

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