Pursuit creates distance between you and the thing you “pursue”

Mirrors of Encounters

I think it’s the pursuit that screws up happiness
(James Hillman)


“Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”

1. the action of following or pursuing someone or something.

synonyms: striving toward, quest after/for, search for;  aim, goal, objective, dream “the pursuit of profit”

More: occupation, trade, vocation, business, work, job, employment “a worthwhile pursuit”

Why make abstruse either the pursuit or happiness? Are you not in pursuit of something when you blog? Is blogging ‘a number of hits game’, like a high school popularity contest?

Happiness is not abstruse. The pursuit is.

Blogging and happiness…- let´s see:

Even if it appears so, I don´t “blog”. I just feel an intense and urgent need to express certain things which have nothing to do with pastime, recreation, business or trade.

It´s been actually many times more a matter of necessity, than a “pursuit”. The pursuit, if that can…

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About julienmatei
I feel an inner urge to express what I see, to communicate and share with others all these impressions. Often the things I see are there, not yet manifest, but waiting... to be observed, talked about, and embraced. These new insights need another approach, a more vivid curiosity... Due to fear and prejudice we prefer to see only "the official" truth - but THE OFFICIAL TRUTH IS DEAD - being dead, it has nothing to give... We can continue pretending Death is fascinating or... we can take the trouble to LIVE... THE NEW has no definition yet... Again, IT requires another "perception", the courage to apprehend everything differently, from a totally new angle, with new confidence and inquisitive touch. This blog is not about interesting concepts, it is about participation... finding new solutions, inspiration, togetherness.

4 Responses to Pursuit creates distance between you and the thing you “pursue”

  1. Thomas Ross says:


    Interesting to see you repost this. Again, I am taken with its wisdom.

    These days I need very much to clear my head. Stress is like a jacket that I can’t take off. I will breath and sit and walk. Seek solitude, stillness. I will regain myself.


    • julienmatei says:


      Good to hear from you. Telelpathy – I thought about you yesterday.

      To tell you the truth, some of my posts are a surprise for me too to re-read. Seemingly, I gave myself answers earlier, which first now I can digest. And hopefully integrate.

      Like never before, I have been under a lot of pressure too, these last days. Stress has felt like a straightjacket. Really as if there was no escape.

      So in those moments you feel totally cornered. Choice-less. As if whatever you try is of no avail.

      Let me quote your comment when the post was initially written:

      “What I pursue always eludes me. What I treasure simply comes to me.

      This is such an important thing. To pursue an objective is to set up a duality that dooms the very effort. We feel a sense of failure when we don’t get our hands on what we seek. And we feel unsatisfied when we do.”

      Now, this may sound infeasible.

      But against all odds, and without any sentimentality, COULD WE TREASURE THIS ANGUISH, OR
      STRESS – as we call it – as if it was a precious treasure? Could we…?

      Instead of turning this into an objective hardly struggling to take it off, to get rid of it through different “methods” – breathing and sitting and seeking solitude – , could we just contemplate our harsh predicament with greatest equanimity?…

      Can we, with other words, let go of the “duality that dooms the very effort”, seeing the pursuit to heal as a total failure, and instead surrender to the natural process, allowing it to truly heal us?…

      Only the projection – which is the outcome of duality – can be “regained”, whereas Oneness – who we really are – can neither be gained nor lost.

      • Thomas Ross says:


        Yes. Absolutely, yes.

        This Tao passage comes to me now. “Be like the forces of nature: when it blows, there is only wind; when it rains, there is only rain; when the clouds pass, the sun shines through.”

        The wind does not seek the calm, nor does the rain seek the dry. The sun does not seek to push aside the clouds. The sun sits and waits. Each force of nature exists, simply and naturally, in unity with all.

        The duality of the very idea of “effort.” Always to get somewhere else, to exist in some other way. As you say, doomed.

        So right, Julien. Just what I needed to hear right now.


      • julienmatei says:


        Great to hear that my words held a meaning for you.

        We may know one thing or another.

        The point is that speaking to you, the insight clears inside of me too. That´s the blessing of a heartfelt dialogue.
        And this sort of reciprocal approval makes Mirrors of Encounters worth continuing with.

        “The sun sits and waits”…Such a soothing truth…Quite so: All things gravitate around Love and Warmth.
        Around the immovable…

        Best thoughts to you from Stockholm.

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