The raw truth?…

A life lived in self-delusion is not a life worth living.

Swedes

“My virtue is being normal:

I am a phony like everybody else.”

Such a paradox

You invariably refuse to see that Life is no rehearsal…

Why are you playing this game eventually?

You understand it all right, but you are afraid to admit you do.

 

Mediocrity is our name, cowardice – our icon

We crave safety and security, because, we are afraid of the unknown.
In fact, we are afraid of anything which surpasses our entrenched shallowness and trivial common sense. We want this Grand Cosmic Phenomenon which is Life to match our petty and nonsensical expectations. Bad news – Life never does.

That´s shy we are unhappy – but change it?…Never… – we only bargain with infelicity in our all too “humane” realm – we know at least what we have…

Very few – if any – take healthy risks. The evidence of this can be felt at all levels of this present society. We live a foolishly predictable and boring life, as our only virtue is to play it safe.
Drones. That´s what we are. Indeed…too much life or emotion scares…

Mediocrity is our name, cowardice – our icon.

I may sound like a fool asking these questions, but someone has to
pose them:
Where are the big feelings? Where is the passion that animates and motivatesour soul? Where are the true poets, musicians, the visionaries, our dreamers?…
Where is the spiritual magnanimity which has defined true human endeavour?
Where is our dignity, our courage to show ourselves we are worth a better destiny?

I for one, don´t see it anywhere.

Do you?…

A Tuesday like this

Would Time exist without denomination?

The reason that prompted me to write this was the following:

Yesterday I put this quote by E. Tolle on my Facebook status:

“The only thing that people may need more time for is that they need time
to realize that they do not need time.”

A girl I know who is a very gifted composer and singer but whose life is
quite a mess – she would never admit it of course – responded:

“This is very suitable for a Tuesday like this.”

Indeed, people never tell you how they really feel inwardly, so you just have
to read between the lines.

In her few words I felt such anguish, confusion, yes, suffering.

As I read her answer, it stroke me like never before that TIME IS SUFFERING.

And what invariably reinforces suffering is our obsession with name and category.

So the question is: if name and category didn´t exist, would psychological
time – which is anguish – exist?…

“Time: time we give to values.” said a fellow blogger in a comment.

So why then do we feel this obsessive urge to evaluate and give name?

Isn´t the constant process of denomination our curse?

Isn´t name giving the very factor which isolates us from one another,
and eventually from Life itself?

Our “beautiful” modern world

“Why is it that we don´t seem to be able to adjust ourselves to the physical environment without destroying it?

This culture represents in an unique fashion the law of diminishing returns – OUR SUCCESS IS A FAILURE…

Everybody is isolated. People are in no real communion with each other at all. This isolation of people into a private world of their own, is really the creation of a mindless crowd.

We don´t get with each other, except for public expressions of getting rid of our hostility, like football or prize fighting. Even in the spectacles one sees around in films or television, it´s perfectly proper to exhibit people slugging and slaying each other, but oh dear, no, not people loving each other, except in a rather restrained way.

One can only draw the conclusion that the assumption underlying
this, is that expressions of physical love are far more dangerous than
expressions of physical hatred.

And it seems to me that a culture that has that sort of assumption is basically crazy and devoted – unintentionally indeed, but nevertheless
in fact devoted – not to survival, but to the actual destruction of life.”

– Alan Watts

We are stuck

…because we refuse any other way of being. To actually be unstuck (…) would mean walking away from the entire drama. Walking away from all we are accustomed to believing. Even when that belief is hidden from us behind layers of mythological obfuscation.

– Antonio Dias
http://horizonsofsignificance.wordpress.com

Healing generational pain and trauma

This is a passage from Adyashanti’s book Falling into Grace.

“Now I want to introduce a different type of suffering, one that can be particularly difficult to unravel. Over my years of teaching, I’ve noticed that there’s a particular type of suffering that is sticky, pervasive, and often very hard to find your way out of. I’ve come to call this “generational suffering.” The notion of generational suffering is based on the fact that each of us comes from a generational line, which goes as far back in time as we can imagine, back even to the original human beings, our original ancestors themselves. We’re actually the outcome of a long chain of many, many generations. Each of our family systems is imbued with a tremendous amount of beauty and goodness, and also carried within these systems, as we all know, is what we might call “generational pain,” or “generational suffering.” This is an actual energy that is unconsciously passed down from one generation to the next.

If you look closely at a particular family system, you’ll see the pain that tends to be passed down through a family lineage. For example, parents who have a particular tendency to suffer with anger or depression tend to produce children who suffer from the same afflictions, and then these children produce children who suffer with the same, and so on. Generational suffering is very insidious. It becomes deeper and deeper ingrained in a family as time wears on, and it forms the core of much of the suffering that people experience.

One of the interesting things to note about generational suffering is that it’s not personal. In other words, it’s more like a virus that infects the people within a family. It’s a way of suffering that infects a family and then gets passed on, almost like the flu or a cold, through future generations. When you’re born, without even knowing it, you’re actually being handed this generational pain. In response, you will complain about it, think it’s terrible, or otherwise resist it. But by doing so, you will come to see that denial or complaints about this pain only makes it sink more deeply into your being.

When you start to identify how this generational suffering operates in your life, when you see how your particular way of suffering is similar to the way others in your family suffer, it can open your heart and mind. From this wider perspective, you can actually start to let go of blame and see that those who passed down suffering to you through this generational chain were themselves experiencing the pain and quite unconscious of what was happening. This pain just came to them, and they manifested it in whatever way they did, and then they unknowingly passed it down to the next generation…

…Eventually, this energy comes to you, and you become the forefront of this generational pain. It’s easy to get resentful and blame this pain on someone else, but when you really see the nature of it, you see that it’s not personal, even though the implications for you feel very personal, and maybe the way it was acted out was also very personal. But the pain itself, the suffering itself, is really not you. It was handed down unconsciously from one person to the next, from one generation to the next. Of course the way it gets handed down is often extraordinarily painful, sometimes violent, because it seems that you are the target of this suffering as it manifests in you and in the family members around you. But if you can avoid getting completely lost in the anger or the resentment – even though, from a relative perspective, it’s understandable – if you can withhold your judgment for just a moment, you will start to see that the pain that you feel was in large part suffering from others in your family-and it does not have to be your own.

When you feel and can identify this deep pain within you, see that blaming others in your family is not the solution. When you feel the urge to blame, keep in mind that your generational line has lived with the same pain, too. It is highly likely that they never even imagined that it was generational. They probably took it very personally, and therefore their only option was to act it out. When you start to see this in terms of a long chain of suffering handed down from generation to generation, and you realize that you’re the one, here and now, who can become conscious of how this works, then you have the opportunity to put an end to it.”

(Courtesy of http://beyondmeds.com)

 

We have invented time in order to escape here and now

He:
I can see your point. But I am afraid that it might take time for me
to see your points more clearly and internalize it.

Me:
Just remember!

Man has invented time as a means to escape the here and now.

We all suffer from this dilemma – including me -, hoping that
things are going to get better, that time will solve the problem.

Bad news: it won´t… – tomorrow is just a modified continuation
of what is now.

The only key to transformation is being aware of this
problem – that time is escape.
If you were attacked by a tiger, you wouldn´t have time to
ponder and postpone, but would deal with the danger right
then, in the moment.

We don´t see the inherent danger in our defective way of living,
and so we procrastinate, all the more deceiving ourselves
thinking we have time
.

There is no time!

Realizing this, we might feel that ineffable glimpse – the timeless –
and once having had this contact with The Timeless Second,
we can trust that It will initiate a new process inside of us.