Transcending loneliness and present-day alienation

“How can a person who is “alive” live in a world that is “dead”
and not feel lonely and alienated?” asked me blueangelwolf.

Isn´t this a very essential question, if not, THE most essential, when you are
a decent person living in today´s world?

Erich Fromm considers the same predicament:
A person who has remained a person and not become a thing, cannot help feeling lonely, powerless, isolated in present-day society. He cannot help suffering, even though he can experience moments of joy and clarity that are absent in the life of his “normal” contemporaries.”
Further on:
“Not rarely will he suffer from neurosis that results from the situation of a sane man living in an insane society, rather than that of the more conventional neurosis of a sick man trying to adapt himself to a sick society.”

The following line is very illuminating and highlights the point I want to make:
“In the process of going further in his analysis, i.e of growing to greater independence and productivity, his neurotic symptoms will cure themselves.”

With other words, you can grow to such aliveness, gradually healing to such an extent,
that despite living in this dead world, you will reach the point of feeling neither lonely nor alienated. Along with it, you will naturally heal everyone coming your way.

I have to admit that I am the first to question the truth of my last paragraph.

But even if my reason considers this far-fetched, my Inner Voice
assumes this to be true beyond any doubt.
Most assuredly, despite being very much aware of the critical state of things, you may step by step come to realize that your distress of having been lonely along with the uncanny estrangement you once felt, are latterly nothing but loose memories.

Related articles:

http://beyondmeds.com/2013/09/08/the-whole-world-is-sick/

 

A word to Richard about our losed interest for interaction

Richard:
When virtuality becomes your reality, you are in big trouble.

Me:
When it comes to social life in Stockholm, this “practice” has become more or less nonexistent.
Everyone here suffers about this phenomenon, and yet I seem to be the only one raising
these questions.

People have neither interest nor need for natural “rubbing shoulders”, nor do they any longer know what sound and sane interaction entails…

I am pondering 1000 times a day as to WHAT is the reason for shunning each other, why people have become utterly unapproachable, self-sufficient and disinterested to meet others, because this is exactly the worst disease of our time – this blatant lack of contact. This is the reason to all shortcomings, poverty and wretchedness in all areas of public life.

Alienation, reciprocal fear of each other, denial of true and spontaneous expression, procrastination and dishonesty is modern man´s curse. We live pornographically, as passion and feeling are banned from our social vocabulary.

No, I am not the only one to see

I just received this mail from my friend Meli. As it happens she is just 25 years old, but despite her young age, she sees with dispassionate clear eyes the factual state of the Western world today. I am indeed immensely grateful as she confirms through her lines the truth of what I have long pondered on: modern man runs away from his emotions. It is quite striking as she speaks as if it was me writing. It shows that I am not the only one observing what is concretely happening around us:

“I think what is happening right now in our post-industrialized/capitalist countries is something we call “Entfremdung” in German, alienation in English!

WE DON´T KNOW WHO WE ARE ANYMORE, WE ARE NOT LISTENING TO OUR FEELINGS ANY LONGER  (we don´t know anymore how emotions work)… We are alienated from each other because we have forgotten how it is to have real interactions with each other, we are even afraid of that.

Communication and social behaviour is such an important part of our lives but we tend to do it less and less. Everything is uniformed. We eat the same shit, buy the same shit, do the same ….
Look at all these chain restaurants and coffee shops, McDonald’s, Starbucks – I think these places exist as a result of this ubiquitous alienation. People work as slaves in uniforms, people don´t respect them anymore. You sell the same shit everywhere. Sorry for that!

In the end, I don´t know where this should lead to. I am actually afraid of people here. For the last three weeks I was in Poland for a summer school and I think there people still know how to interact, how to talk to each other with respect and moral. Same in Romania. But in Germany, people are cold, egoistic. I don´t like it anymore.
My friends say that I am not right, they don´t see this. But I can feel it, sadly.

PS I am staying in a youth hostel in Leipzig today: I just see around people not talking to each other anymore, instead they´re trying out their new app on their smartphones. What the fuck…?

https://julienmatei.com/2012/07/08/why-are-we-trying-to-escape-our-innermost-emotions/