Failing is mostly taken for success

For most people failing is the greatest success.

So many are irreversibly caught in formidable self-deceit. They persistently
claim to be well and thrive, yet you can evidently witness how they headlong are rushing
downwards to perdition.

You try to warn them. One, two, ten times… – they wouldn´t hear.
Not only that they bluntly refuse, but often pompously play superior, poke fun at you,
turning your words into derision. So you give up, leaving them to their destiny.

It doesn´t take long before you hear that some of these people, either are involved in a terrible car accident, fall ill in a life-threatening disease, commit suicide or die in totally unforeseen circumstances.

I am aware that it is baffling, but the underlying reason behind these people´s misfortunes
IS THE REFUSAL OR INABILITY TO LIVE AND BE ALIVE.
It feels that many of them unconsciously wanted to die. I have many examples, but what it comes to my mind now is the death of a good friend of mine, incredibly skilled musician, who passed away some months ago, only 34 years old. I found it very difficult to write about him at that time, but I will do so with another occasion.

Anyhow, I have understood that despite claiming otherwise, surprisingly many people
don´t really want to live, finding reasons to eschew themselves, ultimately undermining their lives.

The thing is, however, that eventually you can help only those ones who expressly ask for help.
With the others you waste your time trying to back or help them. It is pointlessly draining you of your life-force too.

Their chosen destiny seems to be total failing and disaster, and you have no other choice than letting them tread this fateful way to utter downfall.