The signposts have fallen, unblazed trails lie before us

Verily so…Where do you go, who are you to follow when they all pointlessly
rush around with no destination?…

As Jung puts it, there are no longer any signposts to follow; the only direction shown
to you by them all, leads invariably to the secure land of failure and perdition.

You tread in a desert of total uncertainty. A no-man’s-land filled with ruin,
and unspeakable perils. With howling loneliness. You grope in this insidious darkness
which takes all imaginable or unimaginable shapes, ruthlessly giving itself for light.

Those you meet on your way are often calamitous souls disguised in normal people, 
whose only task is to drag you into ever more darkness and mishaps.

The acknowledged prevalent goal in anything leads inevitably to hell, and they
all hustle thither…

NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO IN THIS PRESENT PARADIGM, IT  FAILS. With
no exception.

Unless you want to pursue this by all trodden path to naught, you find yourself
being more lonely than loneliness itself.

Unless you want to embrace Death – that is, being “alive” but dead – you will have to face the trial of this uncanny loneliness and darkness, heading towards the forgotten Source of Life.

There is no path to take.

The Path is uncreated.

Communicating for real makes the difference

All words are meaningless really, unless they are uttered with Love…

I do not expect that my words will sooth your loss, or mine – for that matter. But hearing each other, communicating for real, makes a huge difference.

The pathology of normalcy

Stress, loneliness, depression, boredom – the madness of everyday life. Ever-greater levels of sadness, implying a recognition, on the visceral level at least, that things could be different. How much joy is there left in the technological society, this field of alienation and anxiety? Mental health epidemiologists suspect that no more than twenty percent of us are free of psychopathological symptoms. Thus we act out a “pathology of normalcy” marked by the chronic psychic impoverishment of a qualitatively unhealthy society.

– John Zerzan

For those interested to read more I much recomment this link:
http://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/john-zerzan-the-mass-psychology-of-misery

Running away from gloom and lonelyness enhances your loneliness

He says:
I am undergoing an intense feeling of loneliness. Well, I am not able to relate with people around me except a very few. I find most people boring and irritating, so I run away from everybody. I feel low and gloomy if I spend time in my room for a long time.

Yet in the effort to overcome the gloomy loneliness I search again the company of others,
just to find myself avoiding them nevertheless.

What causes my lack of interest in people?

What is the major problem here?

What is the solution?

My answer:

There is no solution to the problem of loneliness:

No matter if you are among people or by yourself in your chamber, you will feel lonely.

There is no “way out” as long as you are fighting yourself: the effort to overcome the gloomy loneliness will enhance your loneliness.

You just have to lovingly stay and confront this gloomy part of yourself. On your own.
Easier said than done…Still, if you dare do this, you might be free from depression for ever – that, of course, if this is what you wish. Fact of the matter is that many people were they given the chance to recover from an illness, they would be rather reluctant, as they have built their identity on the very disease they suffer from.

Anyway, no medication, no therapy will ever help you recover for real, but your readiness to go along in-depth with your problem. That is not to say it is an easy undertaking.

You just have to have the guts of facing that big turmoil and stop running…Be with it, as if you were with a child: no complaining, no justifying, no thwarting…Eventually there is nowhere to go…- it comes a time when your soul forces you to heed yourself.

This inner conflict of yours has nothing to do with “people”. It´s not “people” you dislike, but yourself, more exactly, that wounded level within yourself…that unloved part of you…
You see, if you were well, you wouldn´t bother so much if people are boring – which they often are – that because when you are connected to your real self, you have less a need to be with people. When you are well, you don´t have any urge to flee, in order to escape yourself, as you are at ease, and home in your own body… Again, then you wouldn´t really mind how others are or aren´t…
So, forget people, the lack of interest is for yourself, for the one you truly are…Stay with what is, even if it hurts. Learn to show yourself the interest your soul craves from you.

 

A dialogue about loneliness and approving of one´s Real Self

She:
I am very intimate with loneliness. It drains the life out of a person, destroys their self-esteem and confidence. At this point in my life, I feel close to no one. There is nobody I can be myself with. In fact I’m not really sure what “myself” is like anymore. I wear so many masks for so many different people, my true self has been lost in the layers. 

You are right in thinking that a lot of times people are scared, but you know what I think?

It is not fear of what you are going through rather a fear of having to do something about it, being involved, that stops them from connecting.  You know how I know that someone is not really interested in befriending me? Usually they repeat something to me as if it’s the first time they’ve told me. So I know for sure that they forgot our conversations since it was not important enough to them to remember. Does that make sense?

Me:
Of course it makes sense – I recognize so well what you say…

The thing is that most people usually lie about everything in their lives. Lying is about deluding oneself eventually… – constantly avoiding to directly experience reality. 

Of course you cannot be yourself, because there is hardly anyone to see
for real who you are, to vividly accept and appreciate you FOR WHAT YOU ARE.
How could they ever acknowledge you, when they live in constant mendacity as to
Who They Are, never being themselves, ever fleeing themselves?…

You wear these masks because you feel instinctively you cannot behave freely with those persons around you, and as they don´t see you, you don´t trust them…You seem to be a sensitive soul, but it´s about time TO TRUST AND APPROVE OF YOURSELF. To become strong in your sensitivity. 

I´ve realized lately how terribly lonely I was. I had to accept this fierce reality that I was really on my own. As nobody would heed me – my self-confidence and esteem being so low -, I finally understood that I have to start befriending myself: to throw away all masks, to embrace my solitude, to love and heed and approve of myself despite all pain, sorrows and shortcomings, to see and give myself WHAT I NEED. 

It´s all about this ongoing process, the most important step:

To dare listen to the child within. To start again, to let illusion die, and allow
the Real You recreate and reconstellate you.

Finally, I think also that what stops people from connecting, is their own fear to look within, the fear of delving into their own inner process. They are afraid of and avoid their own suffering, which they otherwise so well hide…

I am the friend of whoever is lonely

Leamuse comments:

Sometimes we forget that one can be lonely in a group of people.

Early childhood taught me that I was safest alone and I am never lonely. That being said, I adore people and must set aside time to be alone and remain flexible. Writing and painting are solitary pursuits but the choir is not. Trying to improve my french takes me out to communicate with my wonderful neighbours and get involved in village life. So far the balance is working.

Me:
One is ALWAYS alone – that´s the most basic human predicament.

Those who no longer flee this insight are the right company, usually those persons with whom we can share life, friendship, the right kind of frequencies…

It strikes me now that “right company” is about sharing solitude after all, don´t you think…?

Most people try to escape this truth, being constantly on the run.
How can you feel other than “lonely” with them – the more suitable word would be rather “deserted” – as you can never reach them, as they never reach their own inner center… and as we know, center is found only by those who deliberately explore their loneliness.

The Most Important Question

Sometimes you come to the point where beyond the argument of deluded
self-importance, extravagance or bloated subjectivity, you simply know that the
current viewpoint promulgated by science or “spiritual” authority
 is “wrong”,
and you are “right”.

After all, there is no map to anything…

If you want to find out Who You Are and what Your True Destiny is about, you have to question Tradition and Societal Norm which are there to hinder, restrict and discourage you from finding yourself and what is right for you – your individual path.

Most people are never really “born” as they blindly follow the mainstream – “mainstream” meaning failure and perdition for individuality.

If you don´t wisely challenge and rebel against the present order, finding your most specific individualityyou are lost – you will miss the whole point with Life.

Can you thus assume the responsibility of knowing this, of trusting your inner voice and not the rational and dogmatic bunkum of conformity, even if that means derision, tribulation, humiliation and loneliness?

The price is huge, but BEING WHO YOU REALLY ARE IS HOMECOMING – the real answer to it all.