Delusion and self-denial will never know what Love is

amiasleep says:

So if I know myself I’ll find love because I’ll love myself?
What if I just want someone else to love me even if I hate myself?

I remember reading another post of yours where you say something like loving others or being loved by others is not real? Because they only love what we represent to them?

If that is the reality, then perhaps it is better to be deluded and live in self-denial for I do not think that most (myself included) will have the courage to face such utter despair and loneliness.

Me:

This is a hard one.

I wish there was someone so perfectly capable as to love you even when you hate yourself.
That person should be really enlightened, almost a saint – and the thing is that
we are short of saints in our days.
The fact of the matter is that we attract others who are on the same frequency of emotion – with other words, behind appearance, you will manifest someone with the same issue: self-hate.
It is quite logical, isn´t it?

For sure, this is hard to take, but most people today are stuck in projection, and as they are conditioned by their (mis)representation, they can neither see themselves or you…

You see, if these were only “words”…

Only confronting the utmost loneliness – which, for sure, is taken for “despair”,
as that entails the death of projection and representation – only, in that readiness of unconditionally facing yourself, the mind can renew itself, finding its innocence and then – and only then -, can you know what Love is about…

Of course, you can hide yourself behind delusion and self-denial, but know that sooner or later, you won´t be able to escape yourself – the bubble will burst with an unpleasant bang.

I wish you lucidity to see this!

I find her words incredibly moving

She says:

…People tend to treat anyone who seems down or lonely like a leper, an outcast. So, I am attempting to create a space where I can let these emotions out. Even if people don’t want to acknowledge it, there is a wealth of despair out there. A person does not need to be deprived in some way in order to feel it, sometimes there is just no discernible reason and sometimes there are way too many. Better I vent through the written word in this virtual world, rather than explode or implode in the real world.

http://amiasleep.wordpress.com/

Yourself

If you have the courage to confront your feeling of loneliness, your sorrow and fears, your sense of incompleteness and unfulfillment without trying to flee, then you might find something incredibly precious:

YOURSELF…

A comment to Paul

Paul,

It is a sad fact of life: when people detect depression in themselves or, above all, in someone else,
they kind of flee like sparrows. People are usually afraid of introspection. Depression forces us all to look for answers inward… to contemplate – pure and simple – inner reality.

I recognize myself in your words – feeling alone, not having people to talk with. It is true in my case as well: we seem to have more virtual friends, than mates in our very proximity.

What is vital to know is that basically depression is – among other things – the outcome of isolation.
We try to compensate isolation through contact with others… It does never work.

We have to go down into the feeling of isolation, and examine the very nature of it…Not easy though – when you are isolated, whatever you do creates even more isolation.

So what is this isolation about? Can we look at it…? Can we stay with it without trying to flee into conversations…or whatever other ways of escape…?

As long as we don´t directly confront ourselves we will suffer from a constant feeling of loneliness and loss,
that is not going to be healed other than by our sincere readiness to find out…

Solitude

I am pondering on Meister Eckart´s words:

You should live as if only you and God existed. His words are so true, aren´t they? Indeed, you interact, you relate, you meet others, but at the end of the day, at some point they all leave
and – let´s face it – there you are again, on your own, facing yourself.

The hardest lesson for each and every one of us is to learn to deal with this peremptory loneliness.

We can try to escape it – as most people do – but to no avail really; it will chase us whatever we do. Loneliness is like our shadow, we cannot escape it.

We have to learn to linger and confront solitude, cause real peace and contentment are to be found only in solitude with God – only in this contact we can find out who we really are.

Can we redefine “the known”?

Isn’t it quite something…? When time is right, we see and heed things that were there…right in front of us and yet unobserved…

Pursuing the “New” feels many times like a very lonely path to tread, that’s why I am grateful for sharing these words with you…Yes, You… the very person reading this now.

Embracing the New, feels like a heavy task as I can’t rely on anything acknowledged, it is like fumbling after a true yet shapeless dream – I don’t know at all where I am heading to, as New flees all definitions…So sharing something with you, breaks this feeling of uncertainty and loneliness, it gives hope, enthousiasm…the reassurement that the direction is, after all, right.