Non relation

The definition of total failure:

Being in no genuine relation with yourself, with life and with people around.

Being absurd is being normal

The condition of alienation, of being asleep, of being unconscious, of being out of one’s mind, is the condition of the normal man.

What we call ‘normal’ is a product of repression, denial, splitting, projection and other forms of destructive action on experience. It is radically estranged from the structure of being.

The ‘normally’ alienated person, by reason of the fact that he acts more or less like everyone else, is taken to be sane.

Society highly values its normal man. It educates children to lose themselves and to become absurd, and thus to be normal. 

R.D. Laing



Nihil sunt

Modern man has usually no life of his own, but pompously claims to be someone.

Ego versus Real Self – the loveless and the Loved

Bex says:
I need straight forward tips now on how to achieve ‘a joyful self”. Basically I am feeling invisible, and frustrated with most everything. I am sick of feeling like a ‘poor relation’ overlooked and underestimated.
Anyway, I believe I am chasing my tail and not really getting any indicators of whether my path in life is following its correct trajectory.

I can connect and deeply understand your words – after all, this has been my experience as well many times.

The thing is, what I really wonder: What in you feels overlooked and underestimated…?
Who is overlooking you eventually…? What is this “poor” relation about…?

Before we go further with that, let me just remind you that most people today are out of connection with their real Self; most of them are blase, hard to impress, afraid, incurious, indifferent and oftentimes stingy – both with themselves and others…

Crassly speaking, modern man doesn´t take anything seriously. He lives in constant escaping, he is in love with his vanity and stupidity, too busy with his hollow self-image…He doesn´t care about anything really, apathetically overlooking the important aspects of his life, he is afraid of pertinent existential questions: You heard it before: “oh, that is too deep, why are you so serious…it´s too hard ” kind of thing – , he underestimates and undermines the value of Emotion and obviously, he has a poor relation to anything and above all to himself…

Now…How on earth can we expect appreciation from some pitiful lunatics…? How can you think some utterly moon-struck zombies can see and appreciate you when the only thing they appreciate is their idle dreaming…? Really…

I feel invisible too, I said it many times…It is not easy at all, it is frustrating to live in a highly disturbed and perverted age like this, no doubt about that.

To return to your initial questions. What in you feels overlooked and underestimated…?
What is this “poor” relation about…?

I couldn´t know for sure, so I only guess: Can it be so that without you realizing you overlook and unbeknownst you underestimate yourself…? This poor relation you mention is, in my ears, the poor relation you have with You, The Real Self…

Ego always goes in circles chasing its tail. How can you then count on such frenzied authority to give you any indicator as to the “rightness” or correct trajectory of your path?

No, we don´t know how to love ourselves, it´s a blatant fact. No one really taught us how to. So we hopelessly try to find love to ourselves through others. Something like, I love and appreciate myself first when you love me…


You have to find a way to genuinely appreciate and love yourSelf, to estimate and treasure your soul the way you are right on the spot. You have to have the guts to really scrutinize yourself as to WHAT THE RELATION TO YOURSELF IS…

The relation you have to yourself can not be compensated by anyone else. You can go on trying to find yourself through other´s love, but you will encounter even more suffering. Ask me about that…

In due time, due to this right connection with yourself, you will also get more outward appreciation for your undertakings as well.

The joyful Self is nothing you can win or achieve, there is no tip or recipe to it.

Self has no precise address as it is everywhere all the time, above all, within you – but you don´t hear it because of your ego´s acerb ranting. The equation is very simple or utterly complicated: staying and listening to the insidious voice of the Ego, or breaking free from it. That´s all there is, it sounds very simple, but it can take a lifetime – if not even more…

What is important is to start. A SINGLE STEP SUFFICES. But a step in right direction.

Modern man

What has generated this collective attitude of ingratiating submissiveness
and resignation of one´s inner voice and natural emotion?
It exceeds my ability to comprehend, but people seem to no longer want to acknowledge their own lives. Most of them indulge in being not more than some languorous drones of sorts. Indeed, what is this uncommon fear behind this perfidious abdication?

I think modern man lives in a kind of disguised suicide. He has given up on life.
He assiduously dismisses his humanity.
All the so-called technological progress derives from and compensates this peculiar and incomprehensible inability to preserve one´s humanness.

The genuine human quality has become almost an extinct commodity. It is rather conspicuous:

MAN IS TIRED OF HIS HUMAN CONDITION – he virtually aims to be a robot. That is why he is nauseatingly projecting himself in all this technological folly, which is naught but a consequence of his inner piteous cowardice.

Can we discuss this together?

Says C. G. Jung

Modern man is blind to the fact that, with all his rationality and efficiency, he is possessed by powers beyond his control. The gods and demons have not disappeared at all, they have merely got new names. They keep him on the run with restlessness, vague apprehensions, psychological complications, an invincible need for pills, alcohol, tobacco, dietary and other hygienic systems–and above all, with an impressive array of neurosis.”

Who stands in front of you?

Every single act of creation is addressed – consciously or not – to someone who has made a mark on us, someone who has touched us.

To live generally, to state that we give ourselves to all humanity is a vague abstraction. We give ourselves mainly to the ones who mean something to us. Love to a person, turns out to be the legacy of all humanity, as every single person is “humanity”.

To think and feel generally means to take no responsibility for yourself, for this very moment. Let´s stop being “general” and “global” and concentrate us on exceptions, on the very person that stands in front of us!

Abstractions don´t feed us. Abstraction is modern man´s curse.

I destroy you therefore I am – modern man’s motto

Unfortunately we live in a strange age. The way people usually communicate with one another is usually through lack, remorse, distrust and distress, reciprocal punishment, harsh and constant competition and dominion. This is the list of most used and preferred social repertoire. Not to forget faking…a vital ingredient in this sour cocktail.

Unhappiness…Not only they are unhappy but their madness is that they make sure and expect that others are unhappy as well. This is called democracy.

“Why are you happy and I am not? Let me show you real life here. Who do you think you are? Be like us! Suppress your emotion, suffer and torture yourself; if you dare take another road, believing in the beauty and greateness of life, we ‘ll see to punish and humiliate you, diminish you, ridicule you so we can be all equal – worthless, with other words.  These haunted souls don’t stand happiness, freedom and joy. Joy is a thorn in their petty minds.

Not only that they are pitiful wrecks, but they have the nerve to dominate and turning their
worthlessness into a virtue. I say it again:
The most effective tools for this morbid control are PUNISHMENT AND HUMILIATION.

Yes, it sounds like a gross exaggeration, but Worthlessness is modern man’s bible. If you don’t believe me, just look around with an unconditional eye:

Today, in this world of ours, NOTHING REALLY HAPPENS. Yes, it is a horrid desert, there is nothing going on really, YOU HAVE NOWHERE TO GO.  Nowhere…Everything is fake, people are a total sham – a vivid disgrace.

The same unbearable refrain going on everywhere. The same flattened manners, the same scabrous stupidity, same tasteless supermarket food, same zany style of dressing and arrogant conduct, same shit music and sentimental crap movies, really this world has become a howling lunacy, a nasty disease.

What is most absurd, paradoxical and quite surreal, is that in the middle of this pathetic hollow wretchedness, people play happy, refusing vehemently to admit their being totally disturbed.

What scares me most in this insidious attitude, is that they claim Worthlessness to be the only valid thing, the one and only dissonant and daft tonality we’re all suppose to sing in. It’s like you are forced to listen to the same maddening House music all the time.


Man has turned everything into his non-existing Image. That is, if you are not worthless and insane like us, you are not with us.

If you are someone, or want to be something real, we will make sure to punish, divert and destroy you. Not necessarily through explicit plain violence, but through cunning and very refined methods.

I don’t claim “to be right” I just express a dispassionate truth built on years of observation.

I will for sure be called a misogynist for saying that but I can take it :

Modern woman has become a perfect reflection of the Zeitgeist. She has turned into a master of these perverted and malicious methods of punishment, constantly humiliating and depriving man of his dignity and self-esteem, playing a highly immoral, sophisticated and maniacal game to destitute man of his integrity and honor.

I can give you countless terrifying examples of this demented feminine games, of which target I was, but I will do this in another letter.

One thing is for sure: if women won’t give up this ominous narcissistic game of arrogant self-importance and immature evil conduct, we are all fucked.

My friend, let all these blase idiots, thirsting for revenge punish one another. Let us look in the eyes of lucidity and of joy.
The secret of fruitfulness, lies in the deep layers of sincere emotion. Emotion is divine resonance. Love and feeling go beyond duality, thus beyond doubt.

Joy cannot fail. Joy does not select, it simply gives and takes.

Let’s trust our joy and keep the lost souls away.

A Schopenhauer issue

Schopenhauer: The world is my will and representation.

Modern man:  The world is the representation of my madness 😛

A rough outline over modern man

Now, don´t be tempted to think that I was in a bad mood writing this – on the contrary, I was content in a state of great calm and joyous lucidity, being able to put in words what appears to be the diagnose of our age. Some of you may find my words rather harsh, appalling and hard to digest, but someone has to say the naked truth.

If we want something else, we´ll have to confront and deal with our present reality without deluding ourselves.

Modern man is

elusive, remarkably neurotic, self-absorbed, doubtful and insecure, vague, cynical, extremely stingy, always on the go, vain, – vanity is his religion – , fussy, stubborn, aggressive, infamous, arrogant, manipulative, dull, unpredictably violent, predictably fatuous, stunted, limited and limiting, slippery, uneducated, distorted, perverted and inverted, chaotic, dissimulating and irresponsible, yet trying hard “to save” the world.

Moreover, he is

flat, aloof, abrupt, callous, stupid, banal, false, superficial, untalented, shallow, uncreative, humorless, hollow, spiritually anorexic, self-infatuated, nasty, judgmental, restless, sufficient and narcissistic thus impossible to reach.

He isolates himself in his madness, hating his isolation – but at the same time desperately protecting it – he is frustrated and abandoned, stressed – going around his tail, being in a hurry to reach nowhere -, he is inhibited and inhibiting, he is afraid, his petty ego hating every true expression of passion, his icon is pornography, he is easily hurt, he is suspicious, ungrateful, parasitical – yet claiming to work hard -, bloated, lonely, cowardly, vulgar, unimaginative, ashamed of himself and utterly unhappy.

He has become a pitiful, incestuous caricature of himself, a control-loving dispassionate mother-fucker (see Oedipus) suffering of hubris.