What is Source?

travisthetraveler:
I joke about most people who tell you things only according to something else and how they require a reference or source to validate anything. Obviously there is a source, it just doesn’t have a traditional means of referencing it. DNA memory? Organic Frequency? A rose is just as sweet by any name you call it I suppose.

Me:
If you had asked Ramana Maharshi what the source is, he, like me, would have answered “Who is asking?”… Worth pondering on…:)

Source – or shall we call it Emptiness – being non-dual, that is, beyond projection, cannot be inferred by any of our so-called instruments of inquiry. It is beyond any reference, at the same time, it is the reference of everything. You know this already, I think.

Intrinsically, Mind is the outcome of duality and projection, and as such, it is in False Relation to everything. Being biased and insecure – what else?…- it always seeks validation in everything it undertakes: it simply cannot function outside preexisting reference. Consequently, it relentlessly turns Life into a sum of loose aspects put together,,,

As for the rose: release it from its name, and you might find the clue…;)

What are we longing for really?…

Everybody is longing for something.

Quite obvious, Yearning is the motivation behind every person´s action.

I don´t remember someone to have ever questioned this, but
I see myself compelled to look into the very nature of yearning,
as longing has only brought me overwhelming sorrow and distress.

It is so paradoxical – the more I longed the less I received. No matter what.

The more I longed for something the more distance I created between me and
the desired thing.

Really, yearning has felt like a curse. The more yearning, the more sorrow
I received. Invariably, the more unfulfilled I felt.

So after so many years of pondering, I seem to have come to some kind
of insight about this. What happens is that WHEN WE YEARN, WE CREATE TIME repudiating here and now, reinforcing the separation between our desire and its fulfillment.

It comes down to this: if you want something or someone, you have to stop yearning,
raising the most uncomfortable question:

WHAT, OR WHO ARE WE YEARNING FOR SO BADLY?

What is fulfillment ultimately?

Can it be that whatever longing, is longing after the ineffable Oneness, with Yourself…
WITH LIFE BEYOND DUALITY?

Longing enhances duality, and  AS LONG AS WE ARE CAUGHT IN DUALITY,
we will most likely indulge in even more suffering and distress.

I wish I had a clear answer on this, but as far as I can see
if we want to realize what we long for, we have to stop longing and “reach out” for that very inexplicable state of initial non-duality – oneness – which is our most truthful nature. 

If I say “Oneness”, for most people this word will sound like a total absurdity – a mere lifeless concept – that´s the difficult part since very few humans have ever tasted what
Oneness entails.

We have to start living as if duality didn´t exist.

In plain language, if you want to have what you yearn for, you have to drop yearning, “reaching”- that is, being in – a state of veritable, unfeigned contentment AS IF YOU ALREADY HAD ALREADY THAT DESIRED THING. Once feeling dignity and contentment, you will have a fairly better chance to fulfill your longing. 

Does it make sense…?

About pain and suffering

Richard:
Suffering has become an essential part of common sense. But it isn’t given.
Suffering derives from dualism …. which isn’t given, too.

Me:
For sure, suffering IS what the human condition is about – generally speaking.

But while someone is in pain, you can hardly say this to this person: your suffering derives from dualism…
It won´t be heard. Besides, it will be interpreted like an awful cynicism.

I guess if we want to help someone else, we have to have learned ourselves what
non-duality is about.

Richard:
Very well said. I’ve often been thinking what the essential difference is between suffering and pain. It seems there’s no significant border between these two expressions. Maybe real pain is like the physical answer for any violence on your body. And suffering are the thoughts about pain.

What do you think?

Me:
We can easily get lost in different notions, can´t we?…

You see, we have been so socialized by the culture to be “down”, to worry, to ascribe suffering and pain a far too large a significance. No matter if the pain is the outcome of thought or something else, it is there as a constant reminder. We have to learn to observe this process dispassionately.

WHY IS IT CONSTANTLY THERE…?

Everybody suffers, it is human…everybody takes that as a given truth.

But is it ok to be in pain? Why do we take pain and suffering as “the real thing”?
Why have we built up our personality on this delusion of hardship, pain, resistance…?

Why can´t we live in Joy instead…?

This is not a rhetorical question, but something to be “seriously” considered.

Why don´t we usually feel Joy and Ease Now…? Why…?
Is it because I don´t allow myself?

Is it civilized to choose pain and conflict before joy and peace…?
Is it civilized to have a life full of suffering?

These questions are to be observed as they arise in the moment.
Cause only in the moment the switch from Suffering and Pain to Joy and Equanimity
can be made…