We have to give up the false assumption that Life is Separateness

Life is never one-sided.

But our thought is. Likewise our perception of ourselves and everything around us.
That´s the main problem of thinking basically: I choose “this”, on the expense of “that”.

We can´t imagine that a thing is both “this and that”…

Our choice is uncritically taken as the only valid assumption. Meaning that we inertially take our deliberate option as “The Thing”. It is clear that whatever we observe is biased by our ingrained one-sidedness.

Either you are a scientist, or a poet. To be a poet and a scientist doesn´t make you a reliable professional.

If I as a musician paint, compose or write and have scientific interests besides, turns me automatically into a suspicious character.

Stupidity consists of many things, but in this context, stupidity is always one-sided.

In fact, the beginning of stupidity is to be found in the shameless presumption of “either-or”. Either down or up. Stay or go. Christian or Buddhist. The list can continue interminably…

Truth of the matter is that we are irrevocably stuck in either-or and neither-nor.
In vapid concepts. Language too, may be our curse.

Most assuredly, an apple is not a pear, of course, a man is not a woman.

The problem is that thinking suspends the Natural Unity of Life – it sees the apple totally separated from the pear, the child from the “grown-up”, the woman from man.

With other words, another insidious side of stupidity is to be stuck in category-thinking. Further on – and this is the most scary characteristic for most people:


This falling short of seeing things in intrinsic relation is appalling. It is actually our doom.


We are supposed to mount but not descend, win and never lose, act obsessively without relaxing, go away but never come back.

The worst outcome of this delirious misconception is Progress – as in economic growth.

Growth can also mean tumor. Isn´it obvious? – We have totally bought ourselves into maintaining and fueling disease. Everybody with common sense sees the relation between economic growth and sickness – growth as a rampant bloating of fragmentation and disunity.

“Day-living” is our only zany answer. Night – as a metaphor for Mystery and Unknowing, the zone where our definitions are invalid – scares us. Too spooky. Too uncontrollable. 

This stupid idea of separateness has turned our life into an unbearable and absurd wasteland. In the absence of the Ineffable – the Wholeness of Being – and due to becoming explicitly rational, human relations have been ruined: man has become woman´s worst foe, and woman man´s worst nightmare.

Not being able to relax and come back to themselves, people live in total agony. Not being IN RELATION to anything, they cut themselves off from any reasonable living.

Lonely wretched strangers going nowhere.

To conclude.

Everything falls back to a wrong perception of Life.

Namely, THE ONE-SIDEDNESS OF THOUGHT, which breeds Separation, Fragmentation and Lack of Relation.

Fragmentation is the sickness of the Soul.

The enormously stupid and baleful assumption that Life is Separation is our death sentence.

There is not much of an option. We have to renounce this disastrous delusion and heal, embracing Wholeness.

Everything is in vivid relation to everything.

The ultimate fulfillment

It´s not wealth, not a woman or man, no career or success, nor God knows
what dream or achievement which brings you true peace.

Ultimately, they are all missing themselves. It is that simple:

Humans are all chasing the genuine, pervasive contact with true Self…- the inner
fulfillment. This wholeness can not be sought, as it´s there patiently awaiting…

Most of them don´t know this.


What else is there so worthy to be undertaken?

Unless and until a man embarks upon this quest of the true self, doubt and uncertainty will follow his footsteps throughout life. The greatest kings and statesmen try to rule others, when in their heart of hearts they know that they cannot rule themselves. Yet the greatest power is at the command of the man who has penetrated to his inmost depth.

There are men of giant intellects who spend their lives gathering knowledge about many things. Ask these men if they have solved the mystery of man, if they have conquered themselves, and they will hang their heads in shame. What is the use of knowing about everything else when you do not yet know who you are? Men avoid this enquiry into the true self, but what else is there so worthy to be undertaken?

– Ramana Maharshi speaking in “A Search In Secret India” by Paul Brunton

Too much benevolence scares them

Punishment and retribution – this entrenched conditioning is what people
take for life.

Consequently what is easily given is not taken seriously, it is hardly accepted. If you don´t believe me, ask what women think of men who give themselves too easily…

That is so, most humans suppose they always have to fight, to strife; indeed to break their necks in order to reach a valuable result is the thing.

Twisted and paradoxical human nature:
The worse the fight, the more desirable the outcome…

Ask me, I´ve been there: it is really counterproductive to be all too nice and gracious with people – as they think you are an easy catch and thus might not appreciate you. In fact, they most likely will disregard you, taking you for a fool.

So don´t sell yourself too cheaply, put a high price on yourself and give moderately. Above all, don´t forget to punish them, otherwise they won´t endorse you. 😉

I never learned how to be truthful

Let´s try this out:

I find her words highly meaningful. Instead of me replying to her comment, what would you answer to this woman saying this?

“I can & I do talk to my partner – to some extent he knows how I feel – but he cannot understand it.

My problem is this: I do not know, I have never learned – how to release this inner anger. I do not know how to not be irritated… what is it I want? I don’t know! I don’t even know! 

It is a question of wanting – needing – something different, a release – but not knowing what that IS… & thus, to some extent, this irritation, frustration, anger.


Don´t you dare expose my lies

I begin to understand why people usually are unwilling to engage in a “serious”,
pervasive and honest dialogue:

They are all aware that they are wrong, but they hate to be confronted with
the very fact of being wrong.

God forbid – what could happen if they admitted that…?

Starting being “right” for a change, would be out of the question.

Who is who?

Those who happily live in the now are usually considered some kind of directionless wastrels.

Who are the wastrels after all? 

The ambitious ones who create nothing but destruction and violence, or the one who
is at peace and naturally unfolds life…?


A sane man living in an insane society

A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet “for sale”, who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who has not acquired fully the having mode of existence – briefly, a person who has remained a person and not become a thing – cannot help feeling lonely, powerless, isolated in present-day society. He cannot help doubting himself and his own convictions, if not his sanity. He cannot help suffering, even though he can experience moments of joy and clarity that are absent in the life of his “normal” contemporaries.

Not rarely will he suffer from neurosis that results from the situation of a sane man living in an insane society, rather than that of the more conventional neurosis of a sick man trying to adapt himself to a sick society. In the process of going further in his analysis, i.e. of growing to greater independence and productivity, his neurotic symptoms will cure themselves.

– Erich Fromm

(Courtesy of beyondmeds.com)

To live is the rarest thing in the world

Most people exist, that is all.

-Oscar Wilde

Consensus has become just a hollow word

Everybody is dying in his own language.

We are each other´s echo.

Please understand that you cannot win, if the other loses.

As long as there is not a real sense of communion between us, nothing genuine can be created, and none of us will have a real life.

Life is not about me, it is not about you. Life is indeed about us.

If there is no strong and meaningful sense of “us”, there won´t be either any space left for “you” and “me”.