Unless your perception is clear-cut
2016/02/16 2 Comments
Changing your inner landscape for a new life to emerge
2013/11/01 Leave a comment
It is not about changing your life but about changing your inner landscape so that a new life can emerge. Make peace with where you are RIGHT NOW, no judgment, and allow some more ease and spaciousness to come in, to relieve you emotionally. So much of your energy is caught up in struggle right now.
– Marla Estes
As long as you take your idea for reality, Reality will shun you
2013/10/15 Leave a comment
Eternity is that dimension of “here and now” which thinking and time cuts out.
She:
Read and reread. Bit of a doozy isn’t it?
Even if I concede to this particular definition of eternity (which is very
one-dimensional if you really think about it), what I said originally still holds, eternity and/or reality is still a matter of perception. What you may view as liberating may prove to be confinement for another. Why restrict myself to just one reality when I may soar in my state of limbo, visiting different realities?
Me:
Aliveness has nothing to do with definitions. In fact, all definitions and conclusions kill Life.
WHEN THINKING IS IN CHARGE, everything becomes flat and
one-dimensional – be it “mundane” or “celestial”.
You take your Concept for the Reality we hereby refer to. After all, you say it yourself: eternity or reality is a matter of Perception…
Bad news: our perception is often false, because – again – what we know is not the reality per se, but the projection we hold as “reality”…
Freedom, or, whatever genuinely liberating, can be a terrible blow to the conditioned mind, indeed, a threat for the already confined perception. After all, we love our confinements, we have put so much effort to raise these thick walls around us…
Mind loves its delusions, it likes to indulge in vacuous dreaming, taking its figments – its limbo as you call it – for “different” realities.
That´s what Mind does: it takes eternity for Fata Morgana, and ascribes Fata Morgana eternal existence.
Now, reality is incredibly dynamic; a many-leveled, subtle but poignant presence, but our very concepts and self-imposed restrictions, which can be termed as one word – Ego –, prevent us from this unmediated perception.
I cannot introduce you to “another” reality as long as your vessel is filled
to the brim.
You might not “believe” me, but give these lines at least the benefit of doubt 😉
What entails a real relation?
2012/11/25 5 Comments
When you say “I miss a real man or real woman” you actually state the missing contact with your Self.
You’re not to blame – what You Are feels insufficient, you look for “the other “to complete you, to compensate your shortage of not being enough to yourself.
What you miss really is not “the other”, but Yourself – the right connection with the true you – can you see that? This is hard to digest, but your feeling of Separation can never be made “whole” by another man or woman, even if it seems so. Because “the one” you are looking for is actually YOU. The harmony you expect to find meeting the other, is the inner equilibrium you are supposed to find first in yourself. Not easy…
With the risk of demystifying love, the truth is that nobody and nothing can make
you happy in the long run – despite the greatest illusion emblazoned by society which always urges you to look outside yourself.
This realization may take a second or a lifetime, alas, most people need even more than that. The fact is that only when you realize that Separation is Illusion, that beyond the deceptive feeling of being separated you are in fact, whole and happy, then and only then, you may meet someone with whom you handsomely resonate.
A liberating move
2012/11/11 Leave a comment
Says Aaron Asphar:
One of the most radical, liberating moves you can make right now is to fully grasp and recognize this truth: taking anything personally always binds you to an illusion. To overcome this illusion is self-overcoming – it is overcoming ego and unconsciousness, turning it back into free, untrammelled awareness. Nothing in the universe is just about you – how can it be? Which ‘you’? You are the total outcome of a universe of forces, perceived by mind as an entity. You are this universe. Your existence as a discrete entity is a figment of mind, an abstraction from all experience.
This is a hard one: who is creating who…?
2012/11/07 3 Comments
Does “the other” exist? Is the other a continuation of me…? Is it me creating the other…?
Likewise, am I a continuation of you? Do you create me…?
Could these lines have existed unless you read them?
The ones caught in illusion – are they a continuation of my own illusion?
Can I do something about “the others´” illusion?
This is the most vital question:
Can people caught in Illusion ever know what Love is…? No, I think they can´t. Illusion is the outcome of fear, so as long as you are caught in Illusion, you can´t know the essence of Love.
Love is the antinomy of illusion…They never rime…
Consequently can the one who knows what Love is, ever reach and convey the presence of love – to “the other” who doesn´t know and doesn´t want to know this…?
Again, does the other exist? Cause if the other exists in the same field as me, than the only one to give love to, is therefore me…And when I do that, the other will probably “know”…
Nobody is right – nobody is wrong
2012/11/07 1 Comment
As long as we are victims of this Illusion of being separated, there can´t exist any real individuality either. We are all intertwined. If there is a strong sense of “us” there will naturally be a true and healthy sense of you and me. But we cannot be true individuals as long as we are isolated each one in his illusion.
I wrote in another post:
Hold no point of view and no perspective and then and only then, you’re right!
The illusion of being right or wrong is ubiquitous. We get easily stuck in “I know – you don´t”. Indeed, we ascribe words a far too big a significance, we stumble in meaningless semantics.
So let´s stay watchful and lucid, let´s know that words without love enhance even more the Illusion of Separation. WHO IS RIGHT OR WRONG WHERE THERE IS LOVE?
Individuality is bred by love and vivid acceptance. I don´t have to be like you, you don´t need to take after me…Everyone has its own particular way of grasping which is neither better nor worse…Who cares if I am right or wrong as long as I go my way, learning to be myself…?
Ultimately, there is no such thing as “I am right – you are wrong”.
Let us learn to appreciate our differences. Let us learn from each other and listen even more!
Let us accept that there is no one else like you and me. We are different, but nonetheless worthy of love…
A few words to Adina
2012/10/30 Leave a comment
Our everyday drama, with all its afferent conflicts and frictions, is undoubtedly true. It is “real” insofar as we are totally caught up in it. We are the characters and the victims of our individual and collective story.
We are entirely identified with this mad story, unquestioningly giving it our fully unreserved attention.
It seems that we are utterly unable to see beyond our conditioned and narrow-minded perception.
WE ARE THIS PREDETERMINED FALSE PERCEPTION, indeed, that´s what we choose to believe we are…
Well, this vicious conditioning, this demented fight with everyone and everything – I repeat, this apparently unique and “real” everyday reality -, is nothing but our twisted perception of our conditioning …- an illusion, and nothing else.
I know what I’m saying now is hard and painful to digest, especially as we have invested ourselves totally
in this illusion – it is the kind of Life, we know so far.
As the water to fish, so is Illusion to us – the very air we breathe.
If you see and understand this clearly, this very comprehension will set you free.
When Illusion is seen as illusion, in that ineffable moment you will know
what Life is about…- a neutrally and joyfully pulsating second here and now, which immediately reveals itself to you.
You´ll simply feel it…
Dis-identifying from Illusion, will bring initially an unbearable vacuum and frustration,
but if you don´t give in, you will soon know that indescribable happiness and inner peace
which is the timeless and true Self.
It is the true and only reality, candidly simple yet all-pervading…
The incarnated Word – essence inexpressible in words …To gradually know the true
nature of Self, you don´t need to be a monk or a hermit…
You just need to have the courage and desire to see Illusion as illusion …
Our factual and perceptual knowledge is pure vanity
2012/10/13 7 Comments
She writes:
But it isn’t seizing is it? What you describe is letting things wash over me, through me, choosing to be passive. Perhaps I have a difficult time assimilating what is meant because I do not have my definition of happiness yet. I do accept that projection is not reality but what you have described to me about happiness sounds a lot like the expanding universe. Let me try to explain what I mean, I have never understood what they mean when they say the universe is expanding, what is the space it is expanding into? Do you understand where I am coming from? If, when I reach this state of happiness, I am more than my thoughts and emotions, what is that exactly? Lets say I am disconnected from everything and there is no ebb and flow and just a stream of constant non reaction, how is that happiness? I agree that it is freedom to an extent, from pain and loneliness perhaps, but is it happiness?
Me:
Just linger a second with this question:
Who is the inner authority wanting to find the definition of happiness?…I am not playing with words?…Who is it…?
Every definition deals with “the known”, doesn´t it? Just consider: Whatever is “known” is an invariable reiteration of the old, can you see this…? Happiness belongs to the “unknown”, as it is ever “new” – It is as fresh as every single breath of yours. Thus, how can something old grasp something vividly immediate which escapes name…?
Is there any definition to be applied to Happiness…? Let´s face it – there is not. Understand that every definition is the derivative of knowledge, and whatever we know is outmoded and conditioned.
The known is constant boundary whereas the unknown is blissfully boundless. Our actual perception fails to rightly connect with “the unknown” – it´s like trying to measure the ocean with a cup of tea…not so wise…isn´t it? And yet that´s what we and our science invariably endeavour…
You come to realize more and more that our factual and perceptual instruments to measure The Unknown are totally ineffective…If you use your cup to drink tea it´s all fine, but the moment we try to empty the ocean with it, transforming the cup into The Only Instrument of knowledge, we obviously have a serious problem.
It can be fun maybe to try to empty the ocean with a cup – after all, it gives many something to do – but if you go on trying “to reach this state of happiness” through definitions, through purposely inquiring helped by your intellect – your cup of tea -, even in 10 lifetimes you will be still searching in vain…
Very few are willing to admit this – our tools to understand Life or Happiness, are preposterously inadequate. We are caught in a paradoxical hopelessness: if our knowledge and its factual and perceptual instruments are pure vanity, do we then have any ability to fathom anything at all?…
This hopelessness is a real blow for the ego…I have faced it…it is utterly disconcerting. Many cannot take it, cause who would they be if it shows that whatever they consciously believed in and struggled for shows to be nothing but futility…?
In this state of realizing the vanity of whatever “conscious strife” something happens within…You realize your impuissance, and let everything crumble. Realizing your powerlessness means “to let go”…This can cause tremendous pain, or not…It is all depending of how “heavily armed” your ego is…your so-called inner authority.
Having faced this hopelessness you begin to be quiet inside of you – there is nothing to do…You start maybe realizing that “thy will be done” are not mere words…You begin to quietly and efficiently observe you egotic “emptiness”. You understand that life or happiness is not about being either passive ar active. All concepts begin to dissipate. Neither action or inaction. Neither thought or emotion. Neither ebb nor flow…No pain, no loneliness.
But!
You´ll also realize that Life is also a sum of all these things too. Both the presence and the absence of everything there is…Immediate comprehending this is also part of the deal…
Accordingly, Happiness is not freedom “from something”…Happiness embraces all there is, and yet it has no thought, it has no mind…
It is nothing to reach. as it is there all the time…
https://julienmatei.com/2012/10/09/happiness-is-the-real-you/
Julien Matei
Mirrors of Encounters 