The unique skill of mirroring the other

This is highly unlikely I will manage to put right words to what I want to say, but I´ll try.
Put Reason aside for a while, letting other levels in you conceive this.

To be able “to perceive” another person, one needs to have established that ineffable peace of mind which is so uncommon for our days. You need to look deep into your real nature, in order to understand and back up the other.

For most people, knowledge means their own projection transferred on one another. Knowledge entails thus, something you have learned before, something you have accumulated through experience, and as experience means often conditioning, it is rather an inappropriate tool when it comes to mirroring the other.

Most people don´t perceive rightly, but make you just a part of their projection.

True knowledge as to understanding the other, requires the almost unearthly task of letting projection die – something that common man loathes. 

At the end of the day, every person is a mystery – a puzzle. In order to solve that puzzle, you need to be free from Knowing, and rely completely on the moment´s intuition. 

Real openness means, again, to be free from any kind of knowledge, given that you´ve gone through all the stages of knowledge. Pretty paradoxical…

In plain words, to assist someone implies to dare go with the other person on a untrodden path. 

Eventually, that´s what life is about –  to unravel together the mystery of every moment..

No standpoint – a koan for you

For the ones who don´t know:

koan is a special kind of Zen riddle.

Koans are not to be solved with the mundane, limited logical mind, they are meant to suspend the intellect, to put it in a state of vacuum, out of which the secret totality of life can emerge. A koan is indeed an opportunity to look deeply into one´s real nature, and “think” without thinking.

So let us consider this:

Your standpoint makes your perspective. My question to you is:



A very good question

He asked a pertinent and very thought-provoking question in his blog:

“Which kind of lifestyle is better to live, a structured one, or an unstructured one?


Neither nor…yet both.

I hear your questions stem from a sincere wish to know.
Go on inquiring and at the same time stop inquiring.


Hm… much easier said than done. I’ll keep that in mind, although I’m not sure if I’m at a place to practice such things yet.


You don´t need any practice at all. If you heed these words, the understanding comes swiftly and effortlessly. Who can say what it is best for you other than you…? Sometimes you have to inquire, other times you have to step back from any inquiring, letting things come to you. Ebb and flow…we all learn to recognize the natural rhythm of life.


I do my best to do that. I do not believe it is effortless at all, though, or else there wouldn’t be any struggle in life. It is a challenge to let go and go with the flow and just feel life.


Try this one:
Have you ever seen a rose struggling to become a rose?


No, but I’m not a rose, so I don’t know if it’s a struggle.


You see, society has us believe that struggle is the only way to “earn” our sense of motivation. So we see life as constant struggling, but this outlook on life is rather precarious, as at the bottom of it is fear. Fear creates conflict and shortage at all levels of being…It is quite obvious, when we struggle we resist our real nature. Ultimately, we struggle for something which we already are.

The same force which made a rose be a rose is behind our “humanness”.. As we struggle, we seem to be out of touch with this subtle but mighty force, which is far more intelligent than whatever we have invented. We can use it, or fight against it, as people usually do…

Try to struggle against a tornado and see what happens…Instead we might use that energy and swirl into unthought of heights…Needless to say – this is of course metaphorically speaking.


Very true, although it’s a truth that takes time to fully realize.


Time is the outcome of our perception. Our perception stems from fear and resistance. I am speaking about psychological time here. When we fail to see the urgency of a problem, we kind of ignore it, pushing it somewhere in the “future”. So Time means actually postponing – that is, the interval between us and the problem we want to avoid.

In the long run time adds even more confusion to the particular problem we avoid, it kind of enhances the gap, the resistance within. Subsequently, whatever true realization happens now. In this insight time stops, and what is beyond time makes Itself known. True action is understanding the above.
I am aware that this may sound a little overwhelming, but I am sure that if you read this carefully, you will know…;)