It doesn´t seem to be a rule to anything.
It is peculiar really:
There are people who never give a thought about introspection and “self-work” and somehow find the “right” partner. This partnership may look like hell for others, but for those involved, it is nonetheless, the “real” thing.
And there are those few who have been working all their life with themselves, are honest, reliable, spiritually aware and talented and find no match. I have known throughout life many such lovable persons who, against all odds, are by themselves.
Is successful match a matter of luck?…Is it fate? Good karma…?
Seemingly, a truly good and “holy” relation entails much more than “inner work”.
After all, God knows what the “right” ingredients are…
PS This is a comment I made on her post. Of you want to read her article here it is:
http://themanaoblog.wordpress.com/2014/01/25/best-is-yet-to-be/