I said it before and I say it again

Honest dialogue brings forth wisdom, inspiration, meaning. And most important:


Yes, the joy of self-discovery. The joy of true participation – that is, the immense possibility of discovering your inner voice and true vocation in communion with the other.

Only togetherness creates a nurturing context where both the individual and the collective can thrive and heal in healthy relationship.

Can we ever untangle from what is constantly keeping us enslaved?

We think it’s us living our lives, when in actual fact, it’s our forefathers’ misconceptions secretly living us. What’s worse is that we unknowingly take this evil heritage for being us, and fiercely quash ourselves, defending it.

They’ve all had you buy the idea of you, while no one was interested to awaken and encourage the real You.

I was watching an interesting clip from Christopher Hitchens who was basically saying that there is much in this world that we still have to battle against simply because those ideas were here first. They are misconceptions from a time when we knew less than we do now, and perhaps they were honest attempts to explain the world. But people hold on to these beliefs, and pass them down to their children. Your statement seems very similar.

You articulate perfectly what I tried to convey. The formidable contradiction is that these misconceptions have almost supreme power over us, so that although people intuitively know these things literally hurt and demean us, they nevertheless hold onto and defend these maledictions…

It probably doesn’t help that when we are most helpless as children is also when we are most easily indoctrinated by our parents’ beliefs. But who else are we to trust as children to survive? As a parent it is the awesome and most challenging of responsibilities to teach my child without depriving him of feelings of self discovery, which is ultimately more important.

The programs inoculated by our parents and education early on are so powerfully and rigidly abiding within us, that it´s almost an impossible task to decondition oneself from them. That because these beliefs cannot be destructured by will or deliberateness, as they happened before one had acquired any healthy self-consciousness…If I am to rid myself from them, I am compelled to almost “get out of my mind”…as mind is the very outcome of this conditioning…

It can take a lifetime to discover that Everything is where you are.

A portrait

Sometimes he felt so shallow, so predictable and rather dull.

He wasn´t stupid, yet he behaved like a veritable fool at times.

He was afraid of his own inner power. Of his artistic talent. Of his real life.

He would do everything to conceal and suppress his passion.
Always kept a due distance to his emotions. To his manhood.
To everything in fact.

He was kind of indifferent to his own person.

Secretly he nurtured a kind of twisted satisfaction demeaning and
constantly disqualifying himself. As if he was asking to be punished…

I told him most earnestly what I thought about him and his escaping mechanisms. 

He would be listening, nodding as if hearing and understanding,
yet never allowing my words to really sink into him…

Constant resistance. To himself and to any genuine contact.

Almost deliberately, he was always trying to chat up cold and narcissistic
girls who would only dismiss him. He claimed he wanted a relation, yet he
didn´t realize that he would never enable a real woman to reach him.

He prefered to lead a lonely, anonymous and depressing existence,
have no real life, than taking the risk of plunging into self-discovery.

Today´s quote

“After all these years, I am still involved in the process of self-discovery. It’s better to explore life and make mistakes than to play it safe. Mistakes are part of the dues one pays for a full life.”

Sophia Loren

A few lines about writing I sent to a friend

Paul Eluard ( a French poet I am fond of) said this : write first without thinking, than make the corrections after. I think it is a very wise advise.

So, when you write, don´t be afraid of being ridiculous. Only mediocrity is afraid of doing mistakes.

We never know exactly What we are and what we are about to become.

Writing is a powerful tool in the great adventure of self-discovery. That´s what it counts – to take the trouble to start this journey. You never know where this road takes you, but assuming this risk is the price of being alive…

The so-called “professionalism” is many times a terrible self-imposed cage. Like success, professionalism leads many times to conceit and self-sufficiency.

When you are thirsty, you drink. Writing is quenching the thirst of the soul.