What brings about a real change?

We may talk and debate endlessly and yet we see no real difference. It is exhausting to see that whatever pertinent thing you say or write is in vain…As Murphy well put it: when people say they wanna change, they become even more themselves. Let’s face it – we claim we want a change, but we don’t see the urgency of that, in reality we accept things the way they are, we continue to live with the same flaws and limits, with the same fears and neuroses, we stubbornly cling to our lies and defend our shortcomings and cowardice.

If this wasn’t the case, we wouldn’t even need the word “change”. If we were truthfully concerned with the present state of things, things would proceed swiftly and gracefully. Instead we cry change, change, change, and yet we take no action, we are not prepared to risk anything. The ones speaking most about moral and righteousness are most immoral.

I think most of us secretly like the way things present themselves: we like to be humiliated, manipulated, lied to, we like being treated like numbers and dispensable entities, because due to our sloth and convenience this is what we have become. We like to control and dominate, that’s why we let others control and dominate us. We accept easily all this tacit abuse and violence, because we refuse to stand up, face our real issues and be the masters of our own destiny.

AS LONG AS WE REFUSE TO FACE OUR INDIVIDUAL AND COLLECTIVE PROBLEMS, OTHERS WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE OF OUR WEAKNESS AND COWARDICE, turning us even more into the non-entities we have become.

No, I am not the only one to see

I just received this mail from my friend Meli. As it happens she is just 25 years old, but despite her young age, she sees with dispassionate clear eyes the factual state of the Western world today. I am indeed immensely grateful as she confirms through her lines the truth of what I have long pondered on: modern man runs away from his emotions. It is quite striking as she speaks as if it was me writing. It shows that I am not the only one observing what is concretely happening around us:

“I think what is happening right now in our post-industrialized/capitalist countries is something we call “Entfremdung” in German, alienation in English!

WE DON´T KNOW WHO WE ARE ANYMORE, WE ARE NOT LISTENING TO OUR FEELINGS ANY LONGER  (we don´t know anymore how emotions work)… We are alienated from each other because we have forgotten how it is to have real interactions with each other, we are even afraid of that.

Communication and social behaviour is such an important part of our lives but we tend to do it less and less. Everything is uniformed. We eat the same shit, buy the same shit, do the same ….
Look at all these chain restaurants and coffee shops, McDonald’s, Starbucks – I think these places exist as a result of this ubiquitous alienation. People work as slaves in uniforms, people don´t respect them anymore. You sell the same shit everywhere. Sorry for that!

In the end, I don´t know where this should lead to. I am actually afraid of people here. For the last three weeks I was in Poland for a summer school and I think there people still know how to interact, how to talk to each other with respect and moral. Same in Romania. But in Germany, people are cold, egoistic. I don´t like it anymore.
My friends say that I am not right, they don´t see this. But I can feel it, sadly.

PS I am staying in a youth hostel in Leipzig today: I just see around people not talking to each other anymore, instead they´re trying out their new app on their smartphones. What the fuck…?

https://julienmatei.com/2012/07/08/why-are-we-trying-to-escape-our-innermost-emotions/