Is suffering eventually about self-infliction?
2016/08/23 Leave a comment
Can we learn from others´ mistakes?
2016/03/13 Leave a comment
There are obvious issues there. She suffers…yet despite her claiming differently, she’s afraid to let go of what’s hurting her. She maintains and constantly empowers the trauma by compulsive and relentless verbosity.
She reiterates the same scenario. She talks ceaselessly. Not a moment of silence.
Unless you let go of word-clinging, allowing a new space be created within, you’ll never have a chance to heal your pain.
In few poignant words…
2016/02/21 4 Comments
Suffering is actually Life telling you that
you are cut off from its grand totality.
Human nature
2016/01/06 Leave a comment
They turn everything into distance, into an unreachable object of desire, in order to continue their agonizing dream of separation.
In plain English, Suffering is man´s utmost Love.
The cure of pain is in the pain
2014/12/07 2 Comments
Paul sent me on Facebook this meaningful quote by Rumi, which felt like a great reminder this evening. Here is our dialogue:
– To acknowledge pain is to also acknowledge your aloneness. And that, if anything, is terribly challenging.The pain of loneliness and the loneliness of pain…So yes…the cure is both “in” the pain and loneliness, but also beyond…in togetherness… Or…?
– Ah yes, in UNITY with the divine…
– Participating in this dialogue now is alleviating the pain…it means that we are United…aren´t we…?
– Yes I’d like to think so.
– What happens if you cease thinking, at least in this very now?
– Then I realize what IS.
– And what is, is a shared Emotion…which is the cure. Fact is, that either we heal together, or continue to suffer separately…
– Brilliant.
Man´s most paradoxical feature
2013/09/30 4 Comments
“The ego wants to suffer. Don´t ask me why“, said a friend of mine.
Weirdly enough, many see Life as nothing but suffering, so they can hardly
fathom anything which goes beyond this idea. Something which doesn´t
make them suffer is taken for some kind of twisted abstraction.
Most people find peace and joy unbearable. They can´t see, or handle Love.
They simply don´t know what to do with it.
Suffering is their main motivation. The raison d´etre. The Incessant Drama makes
them thrive.
Indeed, Who would they be if they stopped suffering?
Suffering and making others suffer is our day-to-day pursuit. Our behavioural vocabulary.
Such an uncanny mechanism – they all claim to want alleviation, but take away their
suffering, and they might kill you for having taken away their very reason to live.
A sane man living in an insane society
2013/09/23 Leave a comment
A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet “for sale”, who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who has not acquired fully the having mode of existence – briefly, a person who has remained a person and not become a thing – cannot help feeling lonely, powerless, isolated in present-day society. He cannot help doubting himself and his own convictions, if not his sanity. He cannot help suffering, even though he can experience moments of joy and clarity that are absent in the life of his “normal” contemporaries.
Not rarely will he suffer from neurosis that results from the situation of a sane man living in an insane society, rather than that of the more conventional neurosis of a sick man trying to adapt himself to a sick society. In the process of going further in his analysis, i.e. of growing to greater independence and productivity, his neurotic symptoms will cure themselves.
– Erich Fromm
(Courtesy of beyondmeds.com)
Julien Matei
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