No one will ever give you the things you fail to grant yourself

Whatever you are refusing the other, are exactly the things you refuse for yourself

Writing to Emma

She wanted to help but “he absolutely defended his right to be utterly miserable. And now I am left wondering if I totally failed myself, my values and my will to help the world, let alone him.”

My comment:

It´s a hard lesson to get that, but sometimes people need to face and confront their misery. Oftentimes, the best way to give something to another person, is to give nothing. It sounds strange…but just ponder on this! Whenever we try to help, we consciously or unconsciously activate our projection, giving it away to “the other”…
Trying to help the other, we are unaware that we give away a false projection, even if the intent is “right”…

The other is always our mirror – the other, somehow activates the blind spots in us, those hidden things that are hard to come by in our soul.

The moment you give nothing but your undivided attention, you allow that person to confront directly the issue.

So actually, YOU ARE THE WORLD. Bear in mind that “giving nothing to the other” means that you take home your unprocessed projections. The person who always needs your interest and deserves most to be given something, is yourself. Once you are radiating energy and wellness, this tacit presence will instantly heal the other, without you needing to raise a finger…

Trust me, by the time you reach your inner center, whoever is prepared to change, will expressly ask for your help.

Only then can you rightly give something, without losing your energy.