Be with it in this moment
2014/09/30 Leave a comment
Do we need to lie to ourselves in order to be happy?
2014/02/13 6 Comments
She
“Man needs a dream, to put up with reality.” – Sigmund Freud”
Quite true, isn´t it?
Me:
Let´s replace “dream” with “lie”!
It may sound cynical, but just as everyone escapes reality seeking refuge in a dream – in an ideal with other words, which is a sham ultimately – reality has become unbearable.
No matter if Freud, or anyone else has said this – Woody Allen claims for instance that the only way to be happy is to lie to yourself – doesn´t make this statement less insidious.
To “put up with reality” means living in a perpetual distance to life, resisting what is, resisting yourself.
How can life be “easy” if we live in constant distance and resistance to It?
We deny this present moment for an uncertain dream – that´s what we ceaselessly do.
Eventually, resisting yourself means that you don´t want to know who you are – which is the case with most people.
She:
What is reality?… It is our perception of everything that surrounds us, something filtered through our emotions, sensations, way of thinking. Do we understand it correctly or distort it? – this is the problem.
Me:
“Reality” is undoubtedly our projection, which is usually unconscious. That is, conditioned and distorted. Distorted, because our fragmented perception can never understand the whole. Who is the fragment? The “I” of course, in its intrinsic nature.
So…
She:
So…either we ignore the wound or treat it…
Me:
Ignoring the wound means collective suicide.
Anything but easy task: to treat the separate ego of its madness.
However, if a few individuals understand the seriousness of this, and start “healing” – that is, having the courage to see the problem as such – then and only then can Change occur.
Bliss is never the outcome of an ideal
2013/09/21 2 Comments
Gabriela:
Indeed, we have created the ideal. But now it all depends on what Ideal means to each human being. I saw ideal as a goal, as a worthwhile higher aim to strive for. This however, does not deny each and everyone´s need for more.
Me:
Truth can never be an “ideal”, that is, it can never be “relativized” – though this is what we assume all the time: “it depends on what Ideal means to each human being”.
With other words, you claim that everyone is free and has the right to imagine anything.
Escaping Life, is manifested in myriad forms and expressions, but escaping – that is,
fear – remains one and the same for all.
I am not necessarily pointing here to factual reality – man needs food, shelter, etc. – but to the psychological state of things.
This inner need “for more” is ideal – can you lucidly see this?
The yearning for “more” – that is to acquire, to accumulate knowledge or money, to be someone, to have a name, to be or not to be something – implies escaping What is. This obsessive search for safety, which itself is generated by fear, is desire seeking fulfillment. Craving for “more” is Ego in its eternal discontent.
“More” is the derivative of dissatisfaction, isn´t it quite clear?
Just ponder:
You must for sure have had moments of great fulfillment, moments in which “more”
or “less” was superfluous. You weren´t searching anymore, as you were deeply satisfied.
You were Blissful in those moments of deep contentment. For sure, Bliss is Presence, presence which is a mighty Joy, an unwavering Peace.
This presence does not belong to becoming, projection or future. Becoming and achieving in time is subterfuge, it is escaping into our own image, never the truth – the Bliss – we are talking about.
Julien Matei
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