Give into being who you are

I reblog here Monica Cassani´s meaningful post:

“We are born with only one obligation—to be completely who we are. Yet how much of our time is spent comparing ourselves to others, dead or alive? This is encouraged as necessary in the pursuit of excellence. Yet a flower in its excellence does not yearn to be a fish, and a fish in its unmanaged elegance does not long to be a tiger. But we humans find ourselves always falling into the dream of another life. Or we secretly aspire to the fortune or fame of people we don’t really know. When feeling badly about ourselves, we often try on other skins rather than understand and care for our own.

Yet when we compare ourselves to others, we see neither ourselves nor those we look up to. We only experience the tension of comparing, as if there is only one ounce of being to feed all our hungers. But the Universe reveals its abundance most clearly when we can be who we are. Mysteriously, every weed and ant and wounded rabbit, every living creature has its unique anatomy of being which, when given over to, is more than enough.

Being human, though, we are often troubled and blocked by insecurity, that windedness of heart that makes us feel unworthy. And when winded and troubled, we sometimes feel compelled to puff ourselves up. For in our pain, it seems to make sense that if we were larger, we would be further from our pain. If we were larger, we would be harder to miss. If we were larger, we’d have a better chance of being loved. Then, not surprisingly, others need to be made smaller so we can maintain our illusion of seeming bigger than our pain.

Of course, history is the humbling story of our misbegotten inflations, and truth is the corrective story of how we return to exactly who we are. And compassion, sweet compassion, is the never-ending story of how we embrace each other and forgive ourselves for not accepting our beautifully particular place in the fabric of all there is.

– Mark Nepo

To be happy is your true obligation to yourself

jonedae:
I wonder, is ‘happiness’ necessary? Paraphrasing the Tibetan Buddhists, they say that, we all have “entitlement issues” when we think that we *ought to* be happy, or that we’re entitled to be happy. For instance, Pema Chodron asked, where is that written? Show me where the wisdom traditions promised you, that you would get to be happy..

Me:
Let´s make it clear:

No tradition, no dogma or authority can ever point to what Happiness is.
That because Happiness is Aliveness, that is, something that cannot be either
labeled or “derived from”.

Doubtlessly, most of us have “entitlement issues” – but that is not the issue here.

The fact is that everybody answers according to his conditioning which they
take for “truth”.

The question is:
How can we ever find something objectively, if we are prejudiced by
other people´s premises? Are we to believe any authority if we engage
in a real quest?

Pema Chodron said this, whoever else – christians, jews or atheists – said that,
but what eventually counts is – WHAT DO YOU SAY YOURSELF?

What do I say?…

So I ask you: Is happiness necessary?

Or let me put it this way: Is conditioning necessary?

If you ask me, whether it is necessary to be happy, I would say that
not only it is necessary, but that IT IS FUNDAMENTAL TO BE HAPPY!
To be happy is our true “obligation” to ourselves.

As it is an inseparable part of Who We Really Are, Happiness is not a goal to be reached, as conscious pursuit and goal-setting only breeds and enhances further conditioning.

The more I strive to be “happy” – or anything for that matter -, the more prone I am
to “entitlement issues”.

Consequently, the only thing we “ought” – our only true obligation – is to fully and
impartially 
investigate into the nature of Conditioning.

And where Conditioning ends, Happiness begins…